SHARE Magazine July 2017 | Page 23

146 Responses From 7 Different Countries The results showed that youth are, reflective and self aware, employing coping skills/ techniques but still need help when overwhelmed by their stressors. Interestingly some stressors are a part of their core values and this makes it difficult to place boundaries on them or eliminate them. Most common stressors: (in random order) • Job work/school work • Money • Anxiety about future/career • Exams • Life decisions/responsibility • Family/Social expectations to succeed • Health and wellbeing • Self doubt/self image • Time management, work/leisure balance • Church related activities impeding school work • Feeling like a failure/not pleasing or doing enough for God G Pom, pom, moments! Generally, the feedback was positive and hopeful youth still believe that in spite of the challenges their faith is worthwhile and their relationship with Jesus is vital. Its seems is it those who place unreasonable demands on the youth that are culpable for cause them undue stress but this is fixable. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (NKJV) Philippians 4:13 Red flags... danger ahead! However, there are some critical issues that were red flagged and if we do not nip them in the bud we will definitely have dire consequences in the immediate future. Most common de-stressors (in random order) • Bible reading and prayer • Exercise • Music-listening/singing /playing instruments • Eating comfort food • Self motivation-positive talk /positive imagery/distraction • Sleep it off • Attending Church • Personal time out/breaks away from it all • Movies • Time with trusted friend • Talking with family activities,” regardless of how the youth are actually doing or how well they are coping. It was apparent that we are not picking up on the stress signals of our youth, many things we possibly see as rebellion is most likely a cry for help. Among the “Church pressures” deemed particularly stressful was the demand for youth to attend multiple meetings mid week as well as manage school and in some cases work responsibilities. Another concern was adults who tend to display a self righteous attitude rather than choosing to mentor or disciple the youth. This alienates the youth and further debilitates their already fragile self esteem and dwindling motivation to achieve a The general finding was that “Church happy work life balance. can be stressful because of the demands to “perform” or do “Church” This exposes a lack of discipleship training programmes and makes it an imperative for Parents, Youth workers/pastors to make discipleship simple, clear and accessible to youth believers. Discipleship ought to begin and end with the family altar, where not only the rudiments of religion is practised but the relational aspect of learning to walk with Christ is demonstrated through the everyday issues of life being transparently discussed and finding solutions through faith is modelled for the youth to see. The youth earnestly need real, accessible role models to learn how to develop a sustainable relationship with Christ. p July - September 2017 By Petra Imani Nicholas Creative Writer, Poet and Blogger on SHARE XTRA SHARE | MAGAZINE | 23