SHARE Magazine April 2018 | Page 8

Are We Raising Confident Children? I I love flowers; I love children and I am always surrounded by both. It is the flowers that usually attract us to the plants. They beautify and enliven any space even if it is a lone flower. Like flowers, children brighten and enliven homes, churches, schools, parties, the grocery stores and just about any place they happen to be. Many parents get noticed because of their children. Oh yes! Has that ever happened to you? Flowers care need intentional For flowers to maintain their beauty and radiance, they must be intentionally cared for. I am thinking of flowers cut to furnish a vase, to be used as a centerpiece. One would need to provide a container with water in which to place the flower. This water is not everlasting. It will require attention; it will need to be changed at intervals to prevent it from becoming the breeding site for mosquitoes and other creatures that will enjoy such a habitat. It is also wise to remove wilted, dead petals and leaves to prevent the flowers’ radiance and attractiveness from diminishing. Similarly, we therefore will need to pay keen attention to the environment in which children are placed and carefully monitor the culture which can become polluted like the water, in the vase, 8 | SHARE | MAGAZINE if not checked at intervals. From time to time, there will be signs of wilting and even deadness as it relates to activities, likes and dislikes which can change like the weather. Raising Confident Children Like flowers, children have names, specific paths and special identifiable features. Confidence, a pivotal character building material, can be inculcated in children when efforts are made to relentlessly help them know who they are. Identity is the life sustaining tenet that will fuel the sparks of confidence that are achieved step by step. Self- discovery turns out to be a very complicated quest and should not be left to time. Deliberate efforts are required to help children know who they are. An understanding of who they are will pave the way for what they will become in terms of passion, career path and their involvement in activities. When parents spend the time to discover who the children are that they are raising, they will be empowered to pour the water in to allow the children’s ‘stems’ to absorb the same and give radiance to their blooms. Yes, knowledge breeds confidence. Knowledge of who you are will empower you to act, think and develop your authenticity. April - June 2018