Sepia Prime Woman Digital Magazine March 2014 | Page 23

First examine and fix your Connections:  Connect with what is inside of you. Move the junk; the bitterness, the sense of powerlessness, and the apathy. When there is a setback, it’s hard, I know, but you can’t move BOLDLY with a lot of unnecessary baggage.  Connect spiritually. Your fight is more spiritual than natural. You can’t fight a spiritual enemy on a natural plane; you need to take your fight to where the war is happening. Our ancestors won a lot of battles on their knees by engaging fear, doubt and injustice with the God who hates those same things; then they got up and marched, started businesses and worked to change unjust laws. The greater your connection spiritually, the greater your impact naturally.  Trust and connect with the right people. There are coaches everywhere, but try to find some friends. Your friends will tell you the truth about who they know you to be, and will love you anyway. A coach will do what you pay them to do (sometimes). Once you have connected and established safe human places, then pursue the business connections. Here’s a real-life example of why I suggest this. I am blessed with a network of friends who are also in business. There is good give and take between us, and a fair amount of tail kicking when necessary. It works. Awhile ago I became involved in an organization, and three of my friends came along with me. After a phone conference, one of them called and asked, “So how long are we going to do this?” My friends realized something that I had not: this was not the right organization for me though on the surface it appeared to be. They took me to lunch and lovingly read me the riot act, but said, “We will stay with you as long as you want.” My friends knew what I was supposed to be doing versus what I could be doing. The right friends will guard your flank – they don’t think like you necessarily and aren’t trying to get anything from you. They just love you, and THAT is what they bring to the connection. Knowing you are loved gives you courage to keep trying. You might have to evaluate your connections and in some cases, revise them. That takes BOLDNESS too. Continued on next page Sepia Prime Woman March 2014