Marriage Tips
1.Keep God first: We must always remember that Christ ordained marriage which joins two people together for purpose. When you made a vow at the altar you made that to each other but in God’s presence and to him as well so just don’t call on God when things go wrong or when you need help. No matter what it is keep God in the equation.
2.Pray together: The first cordless phone was created by God and it was called prayer. It never loses its signal and never needs to be recharged; you can us it anywhere, anytime and anyplace. Prayer is the key to strength and success in our marriage and its ushers the presence of God in a special way into the relationship. I’m reminded of the text in 1 Thessalonians when it says, “pray without ceasing” meaning make this a daily lifestyle.
3.Learn accountability: Start surrounding yourselves with other Christian role models, remember ‘iron sharpens iron” Proverbs 27:17. When it comes to accountability, it can be two-fold because it allows you to be open and transparent with someone that has your best interest at heart plus the relationship with someone who will intercede in prayer on your behalf and yet loves you enough to tell you when you’re wrong even at the cost of losing the relationship. So be careful around those who have the wrong attitude about marriage because that might be the voice the enemy uses to destroy yours.
4.Communicate: The biggest problem with communication is that we don’t listen to understand, we listen to reply yet mainly a reply is not needed, just understanding. I repeatedly asked and begged my wife to spend time with me, touch me and to even have sex with me and reply was always the same, an emphatic no. She could not hear me because of the blockage of her past that I knew nothing about. Men and women, turn on your spiritual antennas so you both can be on the same frequency of understanding as it relates to your past situations that may be causes division and friction within your house.
5.Don’t stop having sex: Sex is a gift from God that you were only supposed to experience on your wedding night and their after. Problem is that we often engage in the activity before marriage (fornication) then stop once we get married. Explore one another in the bedroom by keeping the spark, passion and intimacy alive. The fact of the matter is that you have a responsibility to meet each other needs. If you continue to deny your spouse you are now giving room for the enemy to come and take over. 1 Corinthians 7:4-5
6.Invest: Marriage is like a bank account, if you don’t put anything in it, you can’t get anything out of it. Get involved at your church marriage ministry if they have one. Plan to attend marriage retreats and conferences. Another way to invest is to plan date nights once a week or every other week. Plan trips together, enjoy a movie and enjoy that quiet alone time with each other. Marriage takes work and priority, so don’t just survive in marriage but thrive to have the marriage that Christ intended for you to have.