behavior. Living with high intensity of concerning about other’s opinion will lead to a
life without individual identity but following and conforming to the social trend.
Lacking the internal description for the major two male characters in the book,
the author kind of intentionally tent to avoid the psychological description of Joseph
and Paul compared to the mass and distinct mental process of Rose and the in detailed
portrayal of Lane’s daily hassle. Through reading this book, I found an interesting
phenomenon about the way how the author makes the story go on: the clearly distin-
guishing of how she writes female and male, which is a thoughtful choice for me since I
think through this way the author implicitly demonstrate how female are struggling
with guessing what on earth male are thinking and doing. Female also doesn’t know
how male feels and what they truly are especially the author is a female, which support
my hypothesis that not mentioning the internal description for male in this book repre-
sents a huge difference between man and woman. For the next part of this essay, I will
analyze Joseph and Paul as representatives for the characteristics of male’s socializa-
tions.
Paul, Rose’s father, is not textually dominant in the book. Even when he shows
up, he does not care about, or not externally cares about the other family members. He
is not a good communicator, “It was like we were exchanging codes, on how to be a
father and a daughter, like we'd read about it in a manual, translated from another
language, and were doing our best with what we could understand.” (Bender, 84) Rose
expresses her confusion that she could barely understand her father, what he is up to,
what he is feeling, or how to get to know him. The author uses a unique style of writing
Rose father is that Bender never tells the audience what Paul’s special skill is. Paul’s
reactions are worthfully discussed as well. He is afraid of going to hospital because
going to hospital will reveals his skill that would definitely makes him feel pain. I have
a huge wonder after reading this: why Rose and Joseph reveal the skill but not their
father? One possible answer would be that this is a criticism for adult male and father
that denounce their ignorance about family issues and members. Being afraid of reveal-
ing his special skills stands for exposing his true self in front of others, which links to
the gender socialization theory that Male does not expose their emotions and feelings.
Joseph, the brother of Rose, is a science genius with weird behavior and rare
communications with Rose. After Rose says that she is not feeling right with the food
she eats, Joseph thinks Rose is dumb and irrational. His behavior toward Rose is like a
mystery, no one knows what this boy is thinking. “I loved my brother but relying on