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JB: Sadly, one day you will leave this world.What is
most important to you to leave behind and how do you
want to be remembered?
CH: I want people to have empowered and inspired people
to see a new perspective about living and go for it; to see
what’s blocking them, let it go and live their fullest life
ever. When I leave the world, I want to have been known
for always being loving, kind, generous, honest and living my truth with gusto and taking the dares till the day I
die. I want to be known as a teacher and a student of life. I
want people to remember my smile and that it showed how
much I loved in this lifetime. I want people to remember
that life is for living and loving every minute of it and being
able to laugh and cry. I want people to remember to love
themselves and each other.
JB: We are both Southern girls who somehow ended
up in the middle of the country for a while.You have to
choose. Ocean or Mountains, and why?
CH: Ocean for sure! I’ve lived near both. The ocean reminds me there is a greater power guiding my life for my
highest living and creations. The ocean is about the feminine energy that is about abundance, there is always more
and creation. I feel so connected to the water; its flow, the
divinity of the greatness, the femininity. As women we are
the change agents and creators and the ocean reminds me I
am but a drop in the ocean and yet I am the ocean. (I think
that is from Rumi)
JB: You are married to a fellow creative, with whom
you share many passions. How do you communicate
and are there guideposts that have kept your marriage
healthy through the years?
CH: He says I’m bossy. I see myself as decisive, clear and
to the point in a compassionate get-things-done kind a
way. We work together, which has been an evolution. I
think compassion and communication are our greatest
tools. Sometimes things get snippy when we work from a
place of getting married. When that happens, I ask myself
“would I talk to an assistant or colleague this way?” It has
really transformed our relationship. We learn from each
other every day, and it has really brought an elevated level
of passion for each other. I am very grateful for the ability
to work with him, because he is so talented and makes an
incredible difference for my business!

JB: The digital world reigns supreme nowadays. How
much weight do you give your social media activity and
do you secretly wish that the interwebs would just crash
permanently?
CH: I have met the most incredible people thru social
media and have some beautiful clients I have met on social
media. I am grateful for the connections. At the same time,
it is from pure intention that these relationships have developed and blossomed. It’s not from a place of “who can I get
as a client” it’s from a place of “how can I share who I am
and what I do online, create a relationship that serves the
needs of my clients for what they want to create in their
lives and businesses.”
Social media can create such a distraction if you aren’t conscious about the time you’re spending on it. It really can be
a black hole. It is about boundaries of when to connect and
when to disconnect and honoring those boundaries.
JB: You have the ability to speak to tens of thousands
of parents.What are the three biggest lessons you’ve
learned so far that you’d like to share with new parents?
CH:
1. Spend time listening to your children - get to know
them - what they love, their dreams, their quirks, ask them
questions and really listen.
2. Respect them and answer their “why” questions with a
thoughtful answer instead of “because I said so” or “because
I’m your parent”. Connect with them and understand
where they are in this world. Imagine if we had technology
when we were young plus all the other stuff that we had
too. It is a lot for them now and they want to be heard and
valued just like you did. Now is your chance!
3. Let them have some choice in their life. Move out of
“control parent” to loving parent and give them some
choices so they can grow their confidence in making their
own decisions and trust their intuition.
4. Establish traditions with your children. The more fun
you can have as a family connecting and talking, the gre ]\