Reloaded Mag Africa Volume 21 | Page 7

so wrong for men to “hunt and gather” for the ones they love and care about…the ones they want in their space? All modern notions aside, that is what you are meant for. You are a provider, a protector, the leader of the family – how are you leading me when you have no clue where you are going and what you will be doing when you get there? Why is it that in me requiring you to stick to your core nature, I am suddenly labeled ‘money hungry’ or “gold digger’? If you as my man are not making sure I am okay – who must do it?

An acquaintance

once looked me

dead in the eye

and said “Mo,

your boyfriend

has been driving

your car up and

down for almost

a year and you

don’t have

brake lights…

how?” That’s

when clicked. How?

How did I not

require that my

man makes sure

my car is safe to

drive, more

especially because he used it as well?

So my Almost 30 family, forget about trying to prove how independent you are, a man who wants to be in your life must show you how much better it will be with him in it. Require that of him. Happy dating, don’t go on romantic walks to the bedroom and stay focused on your end goal – if he isn’t giving you what you require, cut your losses and keep it moving.

It’s easy to ‘look’ for a partner – it’s harder to know that with all these new age independence talks, your role as a man in her life will never change.

@BaussLady_Mo

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