so wrong for men to “hunt and gather” for the ones they love and care about…the ones they want in their space? All modern notions aside, that is what you are meant for. You are a provider, a protector, the leader of the family – how are you leading me when you have no clue where you are going and what you will be doing when you get there? Why is it that in me requiring you to stick to your core nature, I am suddenly labeled ‘money hungry’ or “gold digger’? If you as my man are not making sure I am okay – who must do it?
An acquaintance
once looked me
dead in the eye
and said “Mo,
your boyfriend
has been driving
your car up and
down for almost
a year and you
don’t have
brake lights…
how?” That’s
when clicked. How?
How did I not
require that my
man makes sure
my car is safe to
drive, more
especially because he used it as well?
So my Almost 30 family, forget about trying to prove how independent you are, a man who wants to be in your life must show you how much better it will be with him in it. Require that of him. Happy dating, don’t go on romantic walks to the bedroom and stay focused on your end goal – if he isn’t giving you what you require, cut your losses and keep it moving.
It’s easy to ‘look’ for a partner – it’s harder to know that with all these new age independence talks, your role as a man in her life will never change.
@BaussLady_Mo