October has been recognized as Domestic Violence Awareness Month , a time to reflect and raise awareness of the cruel and debilitating circumstances surrounding domestic violence . We hear myriad horror stories about abusive relationships , and the prodding to leave . Being someone who once experienced domestic violence firsthand , I can assure you , it ’ s much easier said than done . Instead of listing the reasons one should leave , or explaining why I left , I want to help those who are in abusive relationships devise their very own covert escape plan . In my opinion , once the mind is made up , the body will follow .
Here are some tips for you , or anyone you know , who may need help :
P = Pack Your Bags — mentally , that is . Make a mental note of the items you cannot live without . These should be things that can fit in a small bag , and can be easily collected and packed when ready . Anything replaceable is expendable . You can return for everything you left at a later date with the police and / or family members who will be able to assist and protect you . If returning is out of the question , then stick to the basics . Collect your important papers , photos , a few items of clothing , and jewelry , then place them in an easy access location . When the time is right , you will be able to gather these items quickly . Do not put things together , or reorganize in a way to make your significant other suspicious .
L = Look For Shelter . Abusers try to convince their victims safe places don ’ t exist . That is untrue . You have options , and you should take full advantage of them . If you do not have family members who are willing to let you stay with them until you get back on your feet , there are various organizations that will assist you . Be discreet in researching your options . Do not verbalize your plans of leaving . This may work against you , and incite violent behavior from your partner .
A = Ask For Help . Assistance is there for you . Family and friends are more supportive than you believe . No one wants to hear a loved one is being abused . Someone will stand by you , and help you out of your situation . If you don ’ t have someone close to you to