My daughters are now ages 24, 23, 21, 19 and 17 years old. My 21 year old still remains a virgin and is in college. My 23 year old is a mom to a one year old. The 24, 19 and17 year olds are all pregnant and expecting their first child. They have completed high school and have been prepared by me for the struggle that lies ahead. As a mother I will allow them to be hands on as mothers. I am not saying I won’t be there for them, but I will not take away their responsibility of being the mother to their children.
Once you enter that world of a teenage mother, everything changes. The friends you once had are no longer around and no oneseems to have time for you because now you have nothing in common. My daughters are seeing this in their lives as I also saw in mine. Even when so-called friends leave, God stays. I believe that He does all things for a reason. I guess my girls are to experience some of the hardship I did as a young mom, although their babies dads are very active in their lives. I pray they continue to remain in their kids’ lives.
As mothers of teenage children, we should always guide our children and encourage them to continue with their schooling and push themselves to pursue their goals, because now they have someone counting on them. I think by my mom not showing me what I needed to do, and not giving me the love I needed, I was determined to love my girls so hard and help them as much as I could through their pregnancies.
I can’t change the past but I can make an impact in the present as I am always reminded our kids are the future. We should never allow anyone to feel they can’t still have a life and achieve the goals they set for themselves just because they have a baby at a young age.By placing God first and allowing him to walk in our lives and our kids’ lives, yes they might fall down but they will get back up and keep going.
I have always told my kids “Giving up is not an option”.