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RAPPORT Issue 5 (August 2020) following up with them to ensure we integrate them into the process as soon as possible' (Portfolio 6, CS 2) Learning from mishearing and misunderstandings Listening within the personal tutor relationship sometimes leads to misunderstandings. Personal tutors reflect on this and appreciate the depth of challenges in the role: 'Instead of interpreting the body language of the students as nonactive it could [in fact] have been their way of expressing interest, or thinking about the encounter so they were in actual fact making the most of the experience … There clearly is learning for me to take away from this in terms of my behaviour to ensure my requests are understood' (Portfolio 7, CS1) 'On reflection, I think that, unintentionally, I had perhaps talked at him rather than with him up to that point, and allowing the welfare officer to take a lead on some of the interview gave him the opportunity to express himself more.' (Portfolio 27, CS 7) Reflections on the Case Study Evidence Personal tutoring, when done well, provides a positive experience for the individuals involved and provides a near magic bullet for the many metrics demands placed on higher education institutions, but to be done well demands an awareness, appreciation and application of good listening. Listening is important in any genuine interaction with students, enabling a better and more meaningful response to students: 'the mental process of listening is an active one … [and] has an emotional dimension since it requires an ability to share, and quite possibly understand, another person's feelings, and to understand his or her situation' (Griffiths, 2009:82). Listening matters in the personal tutoring relationship. It is evident through the case studies that these personal tutors practice good listening, understand the benefits of it, reap many rewards from it but also perhaps absorb too many pressures emanating from this relationship. There is a need for correct training for personal tutors, to understand the tricky balance between listening enough and in the right ways but not to take home too many of the worries or to take on duties that fall out with the role. Grey & Osbourne (2018) argue strongly for the need for all personal tutors to regularly receive and engage in training and CPD in relation to their personal tutoring practice, whilst McFarlane recognises the problems associated with scant training available for personal tutors despite the role reflecting many key skills associated with the training needs of those working in the caring professions. Listening is not always an easy thing to do, especially when conversations are emotional or upsetting or very personal. Tutors therefore need active support in knowing how to actively listen. Jones (2011:98) suggests that personal tutors try hard: ‘the majority of [whom] who feel they just botched a support episode 23