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RAPPORT Issue 5 (August 2020) I was required to employ. I felt compelled to spend a lot of time following-up on the tutorial and reflecting on how I might be better prepared for future interactions of this type. (Portfolio 27, CS 3) It is sometimes difficult for the tutor to be able to know how to address complex personal problems that are shared: With so many issues emerging in one conversation, I felt out of my depth (Portfolio 19, CS 6) The relationship between personal tutor and tutee is at times tough in terms of what is heard: A wide range of risk factors in relation to attempted/suicide have been identified including mental health problems, family background, relationship breakdowns and childhood experiences. Over a period, Jane discussed several of these areas with me and I found some of her experience distressing to hear. (Portfolio 9, CS 2) Many personal tutors are only too aware of the emotional risks of poor listening: without allowing this student to 'off load' and discuss at length their concerns, they may have been at risk of leaving early (Portfolio 23, CS1). The responsibility often falls back on the personal tutor which reveals a need for a wide support framework as well as an avenue for personal tutors to seek help themselves. Students often need time, and for tutors paying 'emotionally intelligent attention' (Portfolio 3, CS1) through attentive listening, stress and strain can often surface for tutors, particularly when such listening demands more time than allocated. Filling the gaps Through listening, personal tutors allowed tutees to reveal things that were helpful for finding the correct support: 'The student shared a lot of personal information about his background …. This was an emotional conversation and disclosure of substantial information which he may not have felt comfortable discussing with professional services or a tutor he didn’t know … I was able to offer the additional time needed to ensure the student had felt they had disclosed sufficient information to provide background.' (Portfolio 29, CS 5) Concerns are raised about particular gaps experienced by tutees: gaps over support for tutees over vacation time is a worry, especially when tutors may be on fractional contracts: As a tutor (and a zero-hour contract tutor as well) I am not paid to support students over holiday periods, yet I feel that I should be there if needed …. For someone like Jane, I am a strand in her coping strategy – if one strand is cut the cord is weakened and could this ultimately lead to her collapse or am I taking too much personal responsibility? (Portfolio 9, CS 3) Concerns are raised about students who miss their initial personal tutoring sessions and therefore lack information and/or relationship-building: 'What is apparent is that we need a mechanism to identify students missing their initial Semester one 1-1 feedback meeting and systematically 22