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Managed Intergroup Contact In Peace-building And Reconciliation and difficult process, cannot be forced from the outside and must come as a genuine desire on behalf of the groups involved in the conflict. To begin the process of moving forward and integrating, groups must be willing to let go of the past, forgive past wrongdoings and trust each other. Intergroup forgiveness, the ability of groups to put past atrocities and hurt behind, is rooted in the development of interpersonal understanding and empathy (i.e. the ability of individuals to reach across community borders and develop mutual friendships and empathy towards one another’s pain). Interpersonal forgiveness is, in many ways, much easier to draw out than forgiveness on a group scale, as people are more likely to forgive on a personal level, once they have gotten to know and like one another. Tania Tam argues that intergroup forgiveness is harder to achieve, more difficult to measure or capture, and influenced by individuals’ attitude towards the opposing group as a whole (McLernon et al 2004: 590). Group level forgiveness is nonetheless even more important in the peace-building process than interpersonal forgiveness. It encourages communities to dispel negative attitudes, promotes healthier overall intergroup relationships, and helps communities work together towards a shared future (Tam et al 2007: 121). Jorge Manzi and Roberto González, who have studied the role of forgiveness and reconciliation in Chile, have shown that intergroup forgiveness is necessary and possible even between individuals that were not directly involved in the conflict, because even people who have no direct relation to the conflict can assume responsibility for or feel guilt for their group’s misdeeds and thus ask for forgiveness on a group level (Manzi and González 2007: 71-9). 33