have been in. The act of writing (pen to paper) is an energetic release from the body to the paper. Once written burn it and allow the smoke to carry all that was written away to the ethos. Physical release of what once was bound inside the self. A third manner is to visualize yourself, your old self, haggard and weighed down with the emotions and thoughts that have held you back. See them standing there with you and bid them farewell as they walk down one path of a forked road. Wave to them and watch the old, burdened self disappear into the distance. Once they are gone see yourself walk down the other path; one that is new and full of possibilities without the burden of old emotional baggage.
These are only a few ways in which to release what is holding you back. All of them will work but they will also fail if the choice to let go has never been made. So take stock in life, see if there is something that needs to be let go and choose to do so. Give yourself permission to have a wonderful happy life and find the inner strength to move forward. It is scary to think about, but the alternative is even worse. Once done work through the physical shedding of the energies that are hold you back and begin to move forward into your new life and renewed outlook.