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Pure Love
Questioner: Can you explain the difference between
infatuation and attraction and love?
Dadashri: Infatuation and attraction is the opposite of
love. The love that this world talks about is worldly love, and
that is why this world is so complex itself. This worldly love is
infatuation and attraction.
The world is immersed in infatuation, attraction and desire,
but the One who resides within, the Self is without all these.
Where there is infatuation and attraction, there is desire. Desire
is always associated with infatuation and attraction. People claim
to be free from desire. Even in their devotion to the Lord, they
claim that they have no desire. But in reality one can never be
free from desire as long as there is infatuation and attraction.
There is infatuation and attraction in everything. It clings
even to material things. If one sees a beautiful tea set, they will
get pulled towards it, even if there is no life in it! I once visited
a carpenter who would not be satisfied until he had inspected
a piece of wood five times over! The piece of wood was round
and smooth as satin! He had to feel its smoothness over and
over again! What an infatuation and attraction over a piece of
wood! So infatuation and attraction is not limited to women
only. Wherever there is worldly love that clings, it is simply
infatuation and attraction.
From Worldly Love To Real Love
Questioner: You explained the subtle nature of infatuation
and attraction. Now how can one be free from it?
Dadashri: It is when one realizes, ‘I am beyond attraction
and attachment’, that one becomes liberated. One does not
need to remove the infatuation and attraction; one just needs to
realize that he is beyond attachment. Infatuation and attraction
will never leave any other way. What happens if you eat
something sweet and then drink tea?