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Pure Love
away from us or to leave us alone. You should not have any
expectations of love from your husband and he is a fool if he
expects love from you. Things are fine when our needs are met.
Do we try to make a home out of a restaurant? We go there
to have a cup of tea, we pay our bill and then we leave!
Similarly all we need to do is to get our work done with ease
and minimal friction out of that relationship.
In Infatuation of Love All Faults Are Overlooked
When can one say that they have gained from the family
members at home? It is when they feel love towards you and
they miss you. They look forward to the times with you. People
get married but there is no love there. It is only a sexual attraction
and need. If it were love, then no matter how many differences
they have, their love would not go away. The absence of such
a love is called infatuation and attraction. Infatuation and attraction
is a waste. Love worth mentioning used to exist in the past. If
the husband went abroad for a prolonged period, the wife’s chit
(inner attentive vision) would remain with her husband her entire
life. She would not think about anyone else. Nowadays if the
husband does not return within two years the woman will find
someone else. How can this be called love? It is all a waste. In
love there is surrender and devotion.
Love is a constant internal attraction. It stays on one’s
mind the whole day. Marriages end up in two ways: either they
will thrive or they will end. Love that overflows will subside
again. That which overflows is infatuation and attraction, so stay
away from love that overflows. The attraction in love should be
for the person rather than his or her physical condition. The love
should remain the same even if the external body is diseased or
is disfigured. When they are newly married the husband caresses
his wife’s hand, but if she burns that hand in an accident and
asks his help in washing and dressing it, he is repulsed. How
can there be such repulsion? Where there is love, there is no