Pure Love
25
Questioner: Sometimes I feel that way about my husband.
Dadashri: That is not called abhorrence. The love of
infatuation and attraction is always reactionary. When couples
fight, they will avoid each other. After a few days of maintaining
a distance, their love grows again. That same love will then
cause conflicts and the whole cycle will begin again. Whenever
the love becomes excessive, there will be conflicts. When
there are conflicts, internally there is love. Conflicts only take
place when there is love. Conflicts are the result of worldly
love from the previous life, and this love is excessive. Otherwise
there will not be any conflict whatsoever! That is the nature of
all conflicts.
What do people say? ‘Conflict sustains our love.’ There
is some truth in this. It is not real love that increases but it is
infatuation and attraction that increases as a result of these
conflicts. Wherever there is less conflict, there is less infatuation
and attraction. Any household where conflicts between husband
and wife is reduced, consider that there is less infatuation and
attraction between them. Is this something that can be
understood?
Questioner: Yes and wherever there is excessive
infatuation and attraction, there is also a lot of jealousy.
Dadashri: All these problems, including jealousy arise
only from infatuation and attraction. When two people fight a lot
with each other, realize that there is excessive infatuation and
attraction between them. I do not refer to these conflicts as
fighting even if they slap each other. I call it parrot-play. It is
like when parrots nudge at each other with their beaks but in
the end there is no bloodshed. Such is the play of parrots!
When we hear such truth, we laugh at our mistakes and
foolishness. It is when one hears such truth that one feels a
sense of detachment towards the worldly life, and one begins to