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Pure Love
witness real love. That love will not increase or decrease. It is
love without attachment. It is the love of the Gnani. The Gnani’s
love is parmatma (absolute Self). Real love is parmatma; nothing
else is parmatma.
The Gnani’s Love Remains Constant
Questioner: So can you explain the different kinds of
love?
Dadashri: There are only two kinds of love: That which
increases and decreases, is called attraction and infatuation and
the other, which remains constant is love without attachment,
attraction or infatuation. This type of love is the love that the
Gnani has.
The Gnani’s love is pure love. You will not see that kind
of love anywhere in this world. The love you see in the world
is selfish love. The love between a husband and wife, parents
and children and in other relationships is all selfish love. One
realizes this when that love fractures, breaks and ends. As long
as there is sweetness in it, everything is fine, but one will realize
what kind of love it is when it becomes bitter.
For his entire life, a son lives with complete reverence for
his father, but if just once, in anger during an argument between
the two, the son tells his father, ‘you do not have any sense’,
their relationship is ruined for the rest of their lives. The father
will disown the son. Now if it were real love, the relationship
would remain unaffected. Selfish love is infatuation and attraction.
It is a love like that between a businessman and his customer;
it is nothing but transactions of give and take. People are drawn
to real love. They are attracted to all the words that flow from
real love. There is no action and reaction in real love. The flow
of love is constant. His or her love remains constant; there is no
increase or decrease, no give or take. Infatuation and attraction
is by nature conditional and involves give and take.