INSPIRATION
HOW TO KNOW IF IT’ STRUE LOVE
All of us want love and in fact it is love that makes the world go around. You can tell it its true love, if you can:
1) Live without your partner
As the famous poet Kahlil Gibran quoted,“ Let there be spaces in your togetherness” and further said“ Stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’ s shadow.”. Mutually support each other’ s personal growth whilst allowing personal space.
2) Set your beloved free
Emotional over-involvement happens when thoughts become focused on the other person in ways that are unhealthy for both the individual and the relationship. Over-involvement can lead to feelings of anxiety, agitation, helplessness, depression, anger, and even resentment. If you’ re emotionally over-involved, you need to detach. Set him / her free and it will make you stronger, healthier, and happier.
3) Dare to explore your differences
Know that who you are is not defined by who you love. Sometimes it can be really hard to deal with a family member or loved one’ s behavior and it can be even harder to separate ourselves from it. We sometimes take it to be a part of who we are-- but it’ s not. Who you love( or are related to) is not who you are.
4) Find your own unique sources of happiness.
Relying 100 % on one person is a big no-no when it comes to having a happy relationship. It’ s key to find some activities / people you can enjoy outside of the relationship. Focus on the positive things about yourself. Sometimes when we’ re dealing with an upsetting behavior, we forget to focus on the positive things about ourselves-- like our strength or our resilience. Remind yourself of your awesomeness.
5) Communicate:
Communicate your intentions with the ones you love. If something really bothers you about someone you love, ignoring it can be tough-- as can changing that person. it’ s best to communicate that you love the person, you don’ t love the action, but you’ re going to do your best to accept it.
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