INSPIRATION
HOW TO KNOW IF IT ’ STRUE LOVE
All of us want love and in fact it is love that makes the world go around . You can tell it its true love , if you can :
1 ) Live without your partner
As the famous poet Kahlil Gibran quoted ,“ Let there be spaces in your togetherness ” and further said “ Stand together , yet not too near together : For the pillars of the temple stand apart , And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other ’ s shadow .” . Mutually support each other ’ s personal growth whilst allowing personal space .
2 ) Set your beloved free
Emotional over-involvement happens when thoughts become focused on the other person in ways that are unhealthy for both the individual and the relationship . Over-involvement can lead to feelings of anxiety , agitation , helplessness , depression , anger , and even resentment . If you ’ re emotionally over-involved , you need to detach . Set him / her free and it will make you stronger , healthier , and happier .
3 ) Dare to explore your differences
Know that who you are is not defined by who you love . Sometimes it can be really hard to deal with a family member or loved one ’ s behavior and it can be even harder to separate ourselves from it . We sometimes take it to be a part of who we are -- but it ’ s not . Who you love ( or are related to ) is not who you are .
4 ) Find your own unique sources of happiness .
Relying 100 % on one person is a big no-no when it comes to having a happy relationship . It ’ s key to find some activities / people you can enjoy outside of the relationship . Focus on the positive things about yourself . Sometimes when we ’ re dealing with an upsetting behavior , we forget to focus on the positive things about ourselves -- like our strength or our resilience . Remind yourself of your awesomeness .
5 ) Communicate :
Communicate your intentions with the ones you love . If something really bothers you about someone you love , ignoring it can be tough -- as can changing that person . it ’ s best to communicate that you love the person , you don ’ t love the action , but you ’ re going to do your best to accept it .
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