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People Pleasing
Emmanuella Suwa

Hey, we all know it is nice to hear people’s opinions regarding our personality, attitude and our
whole entirety but when does it become toxic and what do we do when we realize it has gotten to that
point?

Well, most of us have gone through the phase I choose to term ‘’People Pleasing’’. When people
talk nicely about us, we feel great but then do we realise that it gets to a point of insatiability, when we
are no longer in our comfort zone because we begin to go to all sorts of extent to please these insa-
tiable savages. We all come in different sizes, shapes, colours, attitudes, mentality and choices. Yes, of
course there are few things that are in the wrong, that we need to correct. Being yourself shouldn’t be
one of them.

We are in a world where certain standards have been set for some particular persons. We have
to be a certain way before we are considered as beautiful or handsome, the list goes on. A particular
size is considered perfect so we are advised to eat more or less. We do this to others also and excuses
could be “we were born into this mentality being embedded in us unconsciously”.

Our thoughts are often “Will they like this?”, “Will I sound strange”, “Will I be accepted or
mocked?”. These are all fears that dim our possibilities even in our own eyes, we don’t or rather refuse
to take these steps that we would love to take but our fears draw us back. Thoughts like “Will I be hap-
py?”, “Will I love this outfit?”, “Will I do this with all passion because this is what I want?”. These are the
thoughts that should matter so we don’t go through life with a whole lot of regrets.

It is time you get hold of your life and break away from the chains of people pleasing. When you
actually look at it, most of those we are trying to please really don’t matter, they don’t really care and
you are just putting yourself through all the stress for people that don’t even place you in priority.

So you know what? Henceforth, aim to please no other person but you. When you do this, you
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