Male # 1 :
Dating in the Digital Age : A Research Experiment
Circa 2005 I was on Match . com . I don ’ t know if apps like Tinder make it any easier since they bring people to your attention rather than have you hunt for them but being on Match was hard in a smallish college town . I was around 24 and everyone on it was either late thirties or 18 – 21 . Once I found someone who was a great match and just slightly younger than me . I thought I recognized her but couldn ’ t place her . After indicating interest ( I can ’ t remember but maybe Match ’ s metaphor for this was a wink ?), it hit me : she was a former student of mine from when I taught freshman comp . I was just horrified .
I stopped paying for Match because it just wasn ’ t working for me . From late 2004 to early 2005 , I was still technically married and from then on I was divorced . I ’ m pretty sure I was simply filtered out of many peoples ’ searches because of that . FB played a big part in the early part of my relationship with my current wife . [ It abruptly ends here , as there was no further discussion of his current relationship .]
Female # 1 :
I went on two dates . One was good , I thought . The second was weird because his sexual preference seemed questionable . I did have phone conversations with at least 4 of the guys I interacted with . I ’ m only friends with one , on FB .
I went on two dates with the first guy . He was funny , attractive , smart . The time I met him at his house and his ex was there . He said she really wanted to meet me . I felt like she was seizing [ sic ] me up if that makes sense . He was still very much in love with her I think . So that was a dud . The next guy I met had a humorous personality which I love so we met up . We had only texted prior to meeting but he was completely gay and totally not into chicks . At least that ’ s the vibe I got .
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