Part of being in a healthy relationship is having good communication. Perhaps the guidelines below may be of help opening up the channels of communication between you, your partner or you and a friend. However, if you're in an unhealthy or abusive relationship with anyone, be careful using these tips. You may want to seek professional help about ending the relationship.
For healthier communication, try to:
Find the Right Time. If something is bothering you and you would like to have a serious conversation about it, make sure you pick the right time to talk. Don't interrupt your partner/friend when they're busy, about to go to sleep or stressed about something.
It's always best to let your partner/friend know you would like to talk later and find a time when you're not doing anything important.
Don't start serious conversations in public places unless you feel it would be safer. (PLEASE TURN OFF THE CELL PHONES)
Talk Face to Face. Avoid talking about serious matters or issues in writing. Text messages, letters and emails can be misinterpreted. Talk in person so there aren't any unnecessary miscommunications. (For chat rooms, meet on site and agree not to log off until the conversation is totally over on both sides.)
Do Not Attack. Even when we mean well, we can sometimes come across as harsh because of our word choice. Using "you" can sound like you're attacking, which will make the other individual defensive and less receptive to your message. Instead, try using "I" or "we." For example, say "I feel like we haven't been as close lately" instead of "You have been distant with me."