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WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR
OUR ACTIONS – ALL OF THEM!
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Chat With Tiffany Turner a Health & Wellness
Coach with a passion for people.
e all know how stressful life can get, and how
quickly things can get a little bit . . . well ... out
of control! It’s so easy to blame things on other
people or even on the circumstances around us.
Why didn’t my (fill the blank) take it out already?” No. Why
didn’t you?
If you find yourself trying to blame others for every roadblock you
encounter or even every mistake you make, it has probably created
many issues for you in the past. Especially if you have always tried
to shift blame onto your partner, family, friends, or people you
have to work closely with.
“The dog ate my homework.” Really?
“Why is that table in the middle of the room? I just smacked my
knee on it!”
No matter how much people love us, there is only a certain
number of times most people will tolerate taking the blame for
something that genuinely wasn’t their fault. Blaming other people
can provide us with an excuse to act in a hurtful manner. It’s a
way of justifying our actions. This also causes us to weaken our
relationships.
“This stove isn’t working right. I just burned my whole meal.”
“The house was chaos this morning, the kids weren’t listening, and
now I’m running late!”
When silly things happen, what’s your first thought? Do you
immediately pass fault onto something besides you? Or do you
look at what you could’ve done differently so this stuff doesn’t
happen again?
For instance, your girlfriend mentions that you haven’t reached out
in awhile. Do you pass blame and respond with frustration and
anger because she hasn’t reached out either? How dare she? Does
she know what you’ve been going through? OR do you empathize
with her and tell her how much you missed her and that you want
to do better in making time for her?
For example, if you woke up 30 minutes earlier and got yourself
ready first, maybe you wouldn’t be running late. Hmmmm . . .
Stepping up and taking responsibility for what’s going on in your
life is one of the most important things you will ever do—and one
of the best. You truly are in control.
Life is all about making mistakes. It’s only through getting things
wrong that we learn how to do them right. If we never accept that
we’ve made a mistake, how can we ever learn to do things better?
Things go wrong. We make mistakes. Accidents happen. Life may
not always go the way we hoped it would.
You are where you are because of who you’ve been. Everything that
exists in your life exists because of you, because of your behavior,
your words, your actions. So, how do we learn to start taking
responsibility for ourselves?
BUT! We need to remember that we alone are responsible for our
thoughts and our behavior, whether deliberate or unintentional.
Yes, sometimes we say or do things and don’t even realize what
we’ve done. A responsible person makes mistakes, but when they
do, they take responsibility and make it right.
BE ACCOUNTABLE
If your children are feisty, your partner is unreasonable, your
coworker unbearable, you are always responsible for how you
respond. Your behavior is under your control. No matter what the
situation... never let your emotions overpower your intelligence
and how you respond.
A lot of things that happen to us are the result of multiple
contributing factors and can be caused by a mix of our own
actions and those of other people.
“The trash is full. Arrrgh, now the dog got in it and made a mess.
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