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I coach brilliant women, lots of them. Dedicated, talented, brilliant women.
Most of the time, they don’ t know their brilliance. They are certain they“ aren’ t ready” to take on that next bigger role. They are more attuned to the ways they aren’ t
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Get a thick skin. If you take risks, sometimes you’ ll get a standing ovation, and sometimes, people will throw tomatoes. Can you think of any leader or innovator whom you admire who doesn’ t have enthusiastic fans and harsh critics? Get used to wins and losses, praise and pans, getting a call back and being ignored. Work on letting go of needing to be liked and needing to be universally known as“ a nice person.”
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qualified than to the ways that they are. They are waiting for someone to validate, promote or discover them. Sound familiar?
It’ s time to step up, brilliant women. Here are ten principles for owning your brilliance and bringing it to the world:
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Recover and restore. If you start doing the things that make you gasp, doing what you don’ t quite feel ready to do, and being more of an arrogant idiot, you are going to be stretching out of your comfort zone – a lot. Regularly do things that feel safe, cozy, and restorative. Vent to friends when you need to. Acknowledge the steps you’ ve taken. Watch your tank to see how much risk-taking juice you have available to you. When it’ s running low, stop, recover and restore.
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Be an arrogant idiot. Of course I know you won’ t, because you never could. But please, just be a little more of an arrogant idiot. You know those guys around the office who share their opinions without thinking, who rally everyone around their big,( often unformed) ideas? Be more like them. Even if just a bit. You can afford to move a few inches in that direction.
Let other women know they are brilliant. Let them know what kind of brilliance you see, and why it’ s so special. Call them into greater leadership and action. Let them know that they are ready. Watch out for that subtle, probably unconscious thought,“ because I had to struggle and suffer on my way up … they should have to too.” Watch out for thinking this will“ take” too much time— when the truth is it always has huge, often unexpected returns.
Clear a path by walking it, boldly.
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