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t brilliant women are guidance . We want nd advice . Fine , but people won ’ t underp to ( often because hing new and ahead people will find you f tea . Some will feel ople will want to do hat is interesting or interpret feedback and evaluate the rewing it wholesale .
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I coach brilliant women , lots of them . Dedicated , talented , brilliant women .
Most of the time , they don ’ t know their brilliance . They are certain they “ aren ’ t ready ” to take on that next bigger role . They are more attuned to the ways they aren ’ t
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Get a thick skin . If you take risks , sometimes you ’ ll get a standing ovation , and sometimes , people will throw tomatoes . Can you think of any leader or innovator whom you admire who doesn ’ t have enthusiastic fans and harsh critics ? Get used to wins and losses , praise and pans , getting a call back and being ignored . Work on letting go of needing to be liked and needing to be universally known as “ a nice person .”
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qualified than to the ways that they are . They are waiting for someone to validate , promote or discover them . Sound familiar ?
It ’ s time to step up , brilliant women . Here are ten principles for owning your brilliance and bringing it to the world :
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Recover and restore . If you start doing the things that make you gasp , doing what you don ’ t quite feel ready to do , and being more of an arrogant idiot , you are going to be stretching out of your comfort zone – a lot . Regularly do things that feel safe , cozy , and restorative . Vent to friends when you need to . Acknowledge the steps you ’ ve taken . Watch your tank to see how much risk-taking juice you have available to you . When it ’ s running low , stop , recover and restore .
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Be an arrogant idiot . Of course I know you won ’ t , because you never could . But please , just be a little more of an arrogant idiot . You know those guys around the office who share their opinions without thinking , who rally everyone around their big , ( often unformed ) ideas ? Be more like them . Even if just a bit . You can afford to move a few inches in that direction .
Let other women know they are brilliant . Let them know what kind of brilliance you see , and why it ’ s so special . Call them into greater leadership and action . Let them know that they are ready . Watch out for that subtle , probably unconscious thought , “ because I had to struggle and suffer on my way up … they should have to too .” Watch out for thinking this will “ take ” too much time — when the truth is it always has huge , often unexpected returns .
Clear a path by walking it , boldly .
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