kids are given tasks that they do not always enjoy, they
must use self-control to complete them. Taking the time
to figure out what motivates your child will help them
be successful, reach their goals, and increase self-control.
For some children this may be a reward for completing
assigned chores such as an allowance, an outing, or time
with a parent or friend. Each child and family situation
is different so it may take a few attempts to figure out
what works well for your household.
Enforce limits
Setting limits for children and enforcing them is healthy
for all families, but it also has the added benefit of
teaching young children self-control. If a child’s ball
rolls into the street, they have to make a quick decision
whether to run after the ball or stop and ask an adult
to retrieve it. A child who waits is showing that they
understand the limits their parents have set and they
are exercising self-control as they wait to get the ball
back. Enforcing limits at a young age and giving kids the
choice to stay in the limits or step out of them (within
reason) helps them develop self-control.
Delay gratification and reward self-control
When teaching self-control it is important to reward
kids for waiting, for finishing the task, and for working
hard over time. In today’s society, instant gratification
is becoming the norm. By delaying the reward, kids
have a goal to work towards and they feel a sense of
accomplishment because they have worked toward and
completed their goals. This method teaches not only self-
control, but also builds self-esteem and emphasizes the
value of hard work.
Self-control and Discipline
Quite often, young children become upset when being
disciplined. Teaching children to respond positively to
correction helps build self-control. Try these tips:
Teach children to work through their emotions
Don’t brush off their feelings, talk through them
Model appropriate behavior and self-control
Enforce limits and praise the child when they
make a good choice
Be consistent with discipline
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