As defined by various psychologist over the world, decision making is choosing and choosing implies change. Therefore, decisions inevitably cause anxiety and fear. Because whatever option is chosen, things will change. Moreover, there is usually great inner and outer pressure to choose carefully, because generally, important decisions can’t be taken back. At least not without creating the feeling of failure. All of these feelings connected to choices have brought professionals to ponder whether it is healthy or right for people to make important decisions on their own.
On the one hand, a valid points that the emotional support from friends and family is helpful, well-seen and sometimes even necessary for loved ones going through difficult or stressful times, why shouldn’t we extend that same courtesy to them during the stressful times of desicion making? Not only can support decrease anxiety and fear, it can also help the one who has to choose decide for his own well-being instead of the burden of public opinion.
By being there for the one who has to make an important decision and listening to them, we can help them understand their feeling, release them from their pressure and in the end , help them decide with a clear mind what is best for them. According to recent statistics, only 1 out of 10 seniors in high school know for sure what the want to study in university, six have a slight idea and three have absolutely no idea. What can be inferred from the statistics provided by a report from Los Robles School in 2014, is that nine out of ten teenagers need help, counseling or support from friends to decide.
Nevertheless, as much as we can help the choosers by being there for them, we can never make the decision for them. I personally find it healthy to be able to make a decision on your own. Although help and support can always be asked for, relying on someone else to decide can be harmful, let alone, making others choose for you. This can result in even more stressful situations such as failure, hopelessness and guilt or even anger towards the one who wanted to help you.
Overall, I find that even more important to be able to put a limit or such help, because unavoidable, the choice is your own choice, for your own sake and will change your own life, And no one can decide for you better than yourself.
Decision Making:
Alone or with group support?
Maite A.