This can happen and it will be an enormous risk
that you take. It can also happen in reverse.
Perhaps you didn’t want the break, agreed and
rather like it. Maybe your partner wants to get
back. It can be confusing sometimes.
Sometimes, both partners really miss each
other and decide to work it out. Other times it
is nothing more than the cursor to a formal
break up. It’s difficult to predict.
So, the bottom line is break or break up? The
only way to really know is to talk it out first.
You and your partner need to really deeply
communicate this time. Perhaps before a break
or breakup, it would be in your best interest to
give it one last try without a break. Perhaps set
up a weekly or monthly discussion of the
relationship to see how you are both feeling in
it. Give each other a bit more space or if there
is too much space, perhaps agree on a bit more
time together. If you decide on the break, set
rules and don’t let it go on for more than three
months. Within that time frame you will both
know if you want to pursue it again or not.
There isn’t any right or wrong way to handle a
relationship. Each of you are responsible to
doing what you can to make it work.
Remember, it takes only one person to end a
relationship. If you are both not invested or if
a lot has changed, it may not be worth saving.
If it’s not working, perhaps a temporary break
may help but it is no guarantee that it will cure
what ails the relationship. Sometimes some
relationships are wonderful for a time and then
run their course. Others can last for a lifetime.
Before you throw in the towel, get clear on
what you need and want and your partners
needs and wants. It is not an easy decision but
taking the time for understanding what got you
to this place is the key to the future.
Laney Zukerman, Author, Lessons for an Urban
Goddess (available on amazon.com and Barnes
and Noble online.)
www.laneyzukerman.com