Sex & Sensuality
The Gift of Presence
Being consciously aware of your partner
The Sacral Chakra is magnificent and awe inspiring! This Chakra is the center that oversees the creation of life. The Sanskrit name for the Sacral Chakra translates as feminine creative abode, or the seat of life, or the dwelling place of the Self. With the activation of the Sacral Chakra we begin to develop a sense of personal identity. We learn to put up boundaries and have a sense of personal space. However, because we are still acutely aware of our needs for survival, we begin to develop what I call “relationship consciousness”.
As we move beyond the circle of those with whom we have genetic or familial bonds, we begin to learn the rules governing human relationships. We grow and evolve as we learn about personal choice and consequences; we develop an awareness of male / female polarity; and we discover what we are willing to “bargain” ourselves for. In other words, what we are willing to give up in order to be in relationship, and who or what we are willing to become attached to. Such attachments include other people (partners, bosses, parents and children), material possessions and even our physical characteristics (features, body type, physical strength, etc.).
This chakra is the center of emotions, sensuality, sexuality, pleasure and creativity. It helps with our body awareness and aids us in our sense of strength and grounding into the physical body. The Sacral Chakra works on an instinctive level – it activates our sexual desire, warns us of danger, and gives us access to our emotional intuition.
As it’s directly related to your relationships, your creativity, pro-creation, sexual energy and virility, it makes total sense that an open sacral chakra means you are able to feel, emotionally or physically, connect to others, emotionally and physically and generally be open to the world, to manifest your desires, and to ‘let go’.
I do realize the idea of 'letting go' in any area of our life can cause anxiety, and even more so in the area of our sexual relationship with our partner. It may help, in this case, to know that I am not suggesting letting go of Self. I simply mean letting go of anything that keeps you from being completely present with your partner.
The word "presence" is not a word that’s commonly used in discussions on sex and initmacy. However, there aren’t many other skills as important when it comes to successful intimate relationships. The depth of a relationship will be directly related to our ability and willingness to let ourselves be fully present with one another.
by Tracey Keyser