On the Coast – Families Issue 99 I April/May 2019 | Page 29
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would bring herself out of her state of
anxiety. Her goal was to find mental and
emotional peace. This was impossible
while remaining in fear of what her
children’s lives would become, in the
unlikely event she should no longer be
with them. If she could remove the fear
from this thought, she could replace the
anxiety in her mind. We became curious
about individuals, particularly who as
children, had overcome tragedy to lead
happy and fulfilling lives. This then, was
a possibility for her children…
“What would happen if we truly
believed each event, experience and
interaction was for the highest good of our
child? What if, in every fibre of our being,
we trusted our child’s soul knew what
they needed from this world, in order to
become the most authentic version of
themselves?” As the hours passed by, the
conversation with this mother (and no
less, the look in her eyes) continued to pass
in, out, around and through my mind. I
could not leave this topic alone, so I share
these thoughts with you.
If you believed in a power and plan far
greater than what your human brain
could conceive, that served a greater
purpose of which you may never know,
how would you hold your body? Would
your shoulders soften and your breathing
slow? Would your mind replace fear with
peace, and most significantly, would your
children feel your energy of competency
and capability, embracing them in unseen
comfort and love? How then would this
support your child?
I leave you with a further query:
when feeling emotions which disrupt
you from being the best version of
yourself, what is the alternative? Either
you allow the emotions to negatively
impact your thinking, therefore your
body and therefore your actions, or you
change the meaning of the event. This is
not an easy request, but I believe it is the
essential and most true role of parenting.
To train ourselves to choose trust over
fear, so we may share our child’s lives in
congruency, curiosity and calm.
Sincerely, Catherine
Catherine is a mother, life coach, early childhood
teacher and is co-founder of Developing Dreams,
a locally owned company which provides an
Early Learning Centre and Coaching Services
for mothers. Please email
[email protected] or
call 4358 3155 for more information.
Let’s be honest lads, as a Dad, we all know
how difficult it can be at times to maintain
the spontaneity and romance in a marriage
when you’ve got kids – not to mention how
difficult it can be to find something special
for her birthday or Mother’s Day. If one or
both of you work, it’s almost impossible to
find time for you and your wife or partner.
If you don’t have a reliable babysitter or
grandparents to have the kids for the
evening, you don’t really have much of an
opportunity to do something romantic
alone. A busy workload coupled with an
even busier home life means you don’t
often have the time or energy to think of
something nice to do with your wife. Well
mate, we’ve got a cracking idea that means
you can do something really special with
– wait for it – both your wife and kids.
Before you tell me “Mate, you can’t do
anything romantic with the kids around!”
hear me out. You most definitely can and
should for that matter. Firstly, and most
importantly, it shows your wife that you’re
still thoughtful, romantic and spontaneous.
If you have a daughter, she is treated to an
experience that demonstrates how a true
gentleman treats a lady. Whether you’re
aware of it or not, you’re her first true love
and she learns about healthy relationships
in the way you treat her mum. Something
like this special afternoon shows her
you’re a loving dad and a committed
husband. If your son is part of the special
afternoon that his old man has organised
for Mum, he is subjected to the way in
which a true gentleman treats the women
in his life. If you’re like me, you’re a typical
Aussie bloke that loves a chinwag, a laugh
and is very rarely serious. He looks to you
for guidance and mentoring, so
demonstrate to him the importance of
being genuine, thoughtful and romantic.
At DILF CLUB, we’re a network of Dads
supporting Dads both online and in person
at our regular hangouts here on the Coast
and around the country. We’re all about
sharing genuine, honest and tested advice
from one Dad to another; so here it is…
There’s this thing called a picnic, where
you sit on the ground and just have a beer
with something to eat whilst the sun
inevitably sets – and for some reason,
women think they’re really romantic. If you
want a seriously beautiful picnic that is
both setup and packed-up for you, Tarley
from Lovebird Picnics has you covered, and
it’s a sure-fire way to score some serious
brownie points with the missus. Hey, you
can even claim you thought up the idea
yourself…we won’t tell her.
Furthermore, if you’re anything like
me and hate having your photo taken in
one of those posey, forced professional
photographer situations, you could invite
Brooke from Brooke Biro Photography
along too. You’ll get some seriously good
shots of the family having a cracking
afternoon together and you won’t even
know she’s there.
So, if you haven’t the slightest
clue what to do for her next birthday,
anniversary, mother’s day or apology-
for-having-a-big-night-with-the-boys,
and you’re looking for an activity to do
with the kids, have an old-fashioned
picnic together. The kids can cut loose
and have a play while she enjoys the
champagne and a cheese platter. It shows
her how thoughtful and romantic you
are and demonstrates to your children
that chivalry is not in fact dead but is a
very important part of being a genuine
husband, father and gentleman. All you
have to do is sit there and drink your cold
frothie. Nice work Romeo!
Luke McMahon – founder of DILF CLUB www.dilfclub.com.au
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