On the Coast – Families Issue 99 I April/May 2019 | Page 29

DILF CLUB would bring herself out of her state of anxiety. Her goal was to find mental and emotional peace. This was impossible while remaining in fear of what her children’s lives would become, in the unlikely event she should no longer be with them. If she could remove the fear from this thought, she could replace the anxiety in her mind. We became curious about individuals, particularly who as children, had overcome tragedy to lead happy and fulfilling lives. This then, was a possibility for her children… “What would happen if we truly believed each event, experience and interaction was for the highest good of our child? What if, in every fibre of our being, we trusted our child’s soul knew what they needed from this world, in order to become the most authentic version of themselves?” As the hours passed by, the conversation with this mother (and no less, the look in her eyes) continued to pass in, out, around and through my mind. I could not leave this topic alone, so I share these thoughts with you. If you believed in a power and plan far greater than what your human brain could conceive, that served a greater purpose of which you may never know, how would you hold your body? Would your shoulders soften and your breathing slow? Would your mind replace fear with peace, and most significantly, would your children feel your energy of competency and capability, embracing them in unseen comfort and love? How then would this support your child? I leave you with a further query: when feeling emotions which disrupt you from being the best version of yourself, what is the alternative? Either you allow the emotions to negatively impact your thinking, therefore your body and therefore your actions, or you change the meaning of the event. This is not an easy request, but I believe it is the essential and most true role of parenting. To train ourselves to choose trust over fear, so we may share our child’s lives in congruency, curiosity and calm. Sincerely, Catherine Catherine is a mother, life coach, early childhood teacher and is co-founder of Developing Dreams, a locally owned company which provides an Early Learning Centre and Coaching Services for mothers. Please email [email protected] or call 4358 3155 for more information. Let’s be honest lads, as a Dad, we all know how difficult it can be at times to maintain the spontaneity and romance in a marriage when you’ve got kids – not to mention how difficult it can be to find something special for her birthday or Mother’s Day. If one or both of you work, it’s almost impossible to find time for you and your wife or partner. If you don’t have a reliable babysitter or grandparents to have the kids for the evening, you don’t really have much of an opportunity to do something romantic alone. A busy workload coupled with an even busier home life means you don’t often have the time or energy to think of something nice to do with your wife. Well mate, we’ve got a cracking idea that means you can do something really special with – wait for it – both your wife and kids. Before you tell me “Mate, you can’t do anything romantic with the kids around!” hear me out. You most definitely can and should for that matter. Firstly, and most importantly, it shows your wife that you’re still thoughtful, romantic and spontaneous. If you have a daughter, she is treated to an experience that demonstrates how a true gentleman treats a lady. Whether you’re aware of it or not, you’re her first true love and she learns about healthy relationships in the way you treat her mum. Something like this special afternoon shows her you’re a loving dad and a committed husband. If your son is part of the special afternoon that his old man has organised for Mum, he is subjected to the way in which a true gentleman treats the women in his life. If you’re like me, you’re a typical Aussie bloke that loves a chinwag, a laugh and is very rarely serious. He looks to you for guidance and mentoring, so demonstrate to him the importance of being genuine, thoughtful and romantic. At DILF CLUB, we’re a network of Dads supporting Dads both online and in person at our regular hangouts here on the Coast and around the country. We’re all about sharing genuine, honest and tested advice from one Dad to another; so here it is… There’s this thing called a picnic, where you sit on the ground and just have a beer with something to eat whilst the sun inevitably sets – and for some reason, women think they’re really romantic. If you want a seriously beautiful picnic that is both setup and packed-up for you, Tarley from Lovebird Picnics has you covered, and it’s a sure-fire way to score some serious brownie points with the missus. Hey, you can even claim you thought up the idea yourself…we won’t tell her. Furthermore, if you’re anything like me and hate having your photo taken in one of those posey, forced professional photographer situations, you could invite Brooke from Brooke Biro Photography along too. You’ll get some seriously good shots of the family having a cracking afternoon together and you won’t even know she’s there. So, if you haven’t the slightest clue what to do for her next birthday, anniversary, mother’s day or apology- for-having-a-big-night-with-the-boys, and you’re looking for an activity to do with the kids, have an old-fashioned picnic together. The kids can cut loose and have a play while she enjoys the champagne and a cheese platter. It shows her how thoughtful and romantic you are and demonstrates to your children that chivalry is not in fact dead but is a very important part of being a genuine husband, father and gentleman. All you have to do is sit there and drink your cold frothie. Nice work Romeo! Luke McMahon – founder of DILF CLUB www.dilfclub.com.au Facebook.com/thedilfclub Instagram @dilf.club APRIL/MAY – ISSUE 99 29