On the Coast – Families Issue 99 I April/May 2019 | Page 25

time in the presence of you,
in fact 50 to 80% of parents
Attachment
their parent, their carer.
bed share in countries like
Attachment parenting
Australia, US and the UK.
parenting is
have your party in our
can be ever demanding
‘With increased maternal
intuitive
due to all of the ‘holding,’
contact and feeding, crying
our entertainers can come to you!
Therefore It is really
is significantly reduced,
important to understand that
and contrary to conventional
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with a good book out in the sunshine, a
felt completely wrong to us, for us a
walk on the beach with your little one
bassinette in our room and bed sharing
bundled up in a carrier.
made for much easier breastfeeding
Make sure to Earth yourself daily, take
during the night and far more sleep!
your shoes off and feel the grass between
Being with our daughter all the time
your toes, go outside and get grounded.
and always closely connected allowed us
Start a Journal, or a daily gratitude
to really get to know her needs. With an
list, and incorporate some gentle
increased knowledge base, life with our
Formulating The Future One Thought at a Time...
yoga stretches into your mornings to
new baby evolved into being an easier
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journey and we felt far more confident in stretch out the knots and kinks in your Workshops Early
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shoulders and chest.
the decisions that we were making. 
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“Attachment to your infant is where
Another significant note to remember
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your infant will use you as their primary
is that real self-care takes time. You need
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caregiver as a secure base from which
to consciously create the space so that you
they can then explore and when
can also connect with you. The human
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necessary use you as a haven of safety
that was, before becoming the parent.
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as well as a great source of comfort.”
Attachment parenting to me is when
Taken from The Paediatric Child Health
we lead with love, but also when we
Medical Journal www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/
have love for ourselves too, then we
pmc/articles/PMC272416
always have room to lead with love and
Attachment parenting is not a set
attachment for our babies- we then also
of ‘rules,’ it is about creating secure
exceed ALL of our baby’s expectations
attachments in simple ways such as
from the very start.
responding to your infants distress in
As it was, it still took us a good few
sensitive and/or ‘loving’ ways, such
months with our first daughter to
as picking them up when they are
realise that all we really had to do was
upset and reassuring them that you
to follow her lead, and to trust our own
are all there for them, your baby will
instincts as parents, when we did do that
feel nothing short of secure in the
parenting for us became less stressful,
knowledge that you are present and
our expectations dropped completely, and
connected. They will feel that they can
we felt far more confident in our very
freely express their negative emotions
new role, a raw and heart expanding
knowing that it will only elicit comfort
journey called ‘parenting.’
and love from you. Infants whose
Peace begins at birth, yes. But I do
parents are consistently responding to
strongly believe that it starts more so
their baby’s distress in insensitive or
within the initial post-partum period.
even a ‘resentful’ way, such as ignoring,
This is your babies expected place
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ridiculing or even becoming annoyed,
within your arms, if your baby is always
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and angry at them, these babies will then brought to your chest in upset as well as
plans for your family.
begin to develop upset toward you as
in happy times, they know attachment,
Specialising in childhood behavioural
their carer. They may cry more or even
they know security and safety, they will
issues, learning and anxiety.
minimize any displays of emotion with
always know love.
PLAYGYM or
Clare Marcangelo
Nikki Smith is a Registered Nurse and a Qualified Child and Family Nurse. A mama of three beautiful
daughters with a strong belief in raising our children consciously and intuitively. Nikki is the founder of
Earthway Parenting andhas developed and is facilitating Post Partum Care and Tuning into your Toddler
Workshops. Nikki also provides in home, one on one consultations according to the unique needs of your
family focusing on gentle parenting for your infant and/or toddler. You can find more information here
www.earthwayparenting.com.au
Working with families for over 20 years
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