OMG Digital Magazine OMG Issue 336 20th December 2018 | Page 6

OMG Digital Magazine | 336 | Thursday 20 December 2018 • PAGE 6
SoulFood
4 Reasons Why The Universe Is Not Giving You What You Want in Life
Kathryn Sandford
When my life was a mess I would blame the Universe.
Over and over I would say, “Why me? What have I done to
deserve this? It’s not fair. Why does this happen to me all
the time?”
Then I read THE SECRET. The Secret introduced me to the
Law of Attraction and I believed that this was how I could
get the Universe to work for me rather than against me.
I didn’t know much about the Law of Attraction.  I didn’t
really understand how it worked or how it was connected
to the Universe. I thought the Universe was a space where
if I sent out positive thoughts I would get positive results.
Famous people such as Oprah Winfrey had endorsed the
Secret and they shared their stories of how the Law of
Attraction changed their lives for the better. The Secret
success was unbelievable.
I remember at the time thinking that if the Secret works
for all these famous and successful people, surely it would
work for me? I followed the Secret’s 3-step formula, Ask,
Believe and Receive, and waited for the Law of Attraction
to start working in my life.
During the time of reading the Secret I lost my job. I was
devastated and I felt I was a failure. I was miserable and
gave up reading the Secret or thinking about the Law of
Attraction. Its funny though, when you feel your life is at
rock bottom and you come to a point where you have a
choice – do I continue on with this downward spiral or do
I try and figure a way out of this?
The easier option is to do nothing but I chose to try and
figure a way out. I decided to put the Law of Attraction
and the teachings of the Secret to the test. I set out to
manifest my perfect job according to how I thought it
should be done.
I did get a job but I took the job for all the wrong reasons.
I knew this job was not for me the moment I went into
the interview. I did not listen to my intuition.  I had made
a deal with the Universe to using the 3 step formula from
the Secret to manifest this perfect job into my life. This
was the first job offer so this must be the one and I took it.
Three months later I lost the job. I found myself again,
feeling like a big failure, zero self-esteem, zero confidence
and very little self-belief. Again I had to pull myself out of
this deep dark hole and start over. It was at this point that
I realized that teachings of the Secret were not for me.
The question I asked myself was; “How could I get the
Universe to listen and work for me rather than against
me?”
emotional, environmental and spiritual elements of the
universe.  Of the 12 Universal Laws there are four laws that
influence me the most. When I understood how these four
laws worked, my relationship with the Universe improved
dramatically.
1. The Law of Action – action must be employed in order
for us to get what we want in life. We must engage actions
that support our thoughts, dreams, emotions and words.
No action no results
2. The Law of Cause and Effect – nothing happens by
chance or outside of the Laws of the Universe – every
action (including thought) has a reaction or consequence.
Even if you choose to do nothing you still have a
consequence. Procrastinate and there is a consequence.
You cannot escape the law of cause and effect.
3. The Law of Attraction – this law demonstrates how
we create the things, events and people that come into
our lives. Our thoughts feelings and words and actions
produce energies, which in turn attract like energies.
Negative attracts negative and positive attracts positive.
4. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy – the
law states that every person has the power within them
to change the conditions of their lives through using our
power of choice. Our power of choice is pivotal in regard
to how we want to live our lives. The power of choice
enables us to change the energies in our lives.
My relationship with the Universe now operates on these
four laws – action, consequence, positive energy and
the power of choice. Start working with the universal
laws that resonate with you. You will find overtime that
the Universe will respond and start working with you to
achieve all that you desire in your life..
2. I did not know the difference between setting goals
and achieving goals
I read an article by John Assaraf where he said that the
reason why it is difficult to attract what you want in life
is because we don’t understand the difference between
setting a goal and achieving a goal. When you set a goal
you are operating on an imaginative and rational level.
When you work to achieve a goal you are operating on
a habitual and emotional level. The energies are very
different.
I discovered that there were 5 reasons why the Universe
was not listening to me. Once I understood these 5
reasons I was finally able to get the Universe working
alongside me. The desire for a goal is “energy in motion” and unless
you keep this desire strong it will quickly disappear and
lose its strength. This was happening to me all the time,
especially when it came to losing weight and getting fit! I
always found it a battle. I would start of with a hiss and a
roar however over time it all became too hard and I would
give up.
1. I had no idea what the Laws of Universe were or how
they worked
There are 12 Universal Law that govern the physical, Once I understood how to work with the different energies
that are the essential elements of setting and achieving
goals I felt more confident about my abilities and myself. I
also found that I began to have more positive experiences
in my life and my relationship with the Universe improved.
Over time I stopped bargaining with the Universe and
became more open to receiving from the universe.
3. I Would Take Action Before Aligning My Mind Body
and Soul
John Assaraf believes that the reason why some people
never achieve positive results is because their conscious
thoughts which are positive are not aligned to their
unconscious beliefs, habits and values. If you are not
aligned in your mind, body and soul although your
conscious mind desires greatness your subconscious will
block it.
To attract the positive things in my life I needed to work
on getting my conscious and subconscious mind in sync.
Once I got this figured out I became much better at
managing all the emotions and thoughts that are essential
to me setting and achieving my goals.
4.  I spent a lot of time trying to feel good but not
dealing with what made me feel bad
I thought long and hard about including this reason as it
is a complicated one. Why I wanted to share this reason
is because I believe we are conditioned to think that we
have to be positive and upbeat all the time and if we are
not we will never achieve our dreams, be a success or live
the life we desire. Events can happen in our lives that are
traumatic and painful. It is times like these that it becomes
very hard to be positive and upbeat about life especially
when you feel so bad. There are also times in our life where
we just feel sad, scared or frustrated. I was spending too
much time focusing on having to be positive and feeling
good that I was not dealing with my feelings of sadness,
grief, pain and fear.
I do agree that maintaining a positive attitude and outlook
about life is powerful and you do have more energy and
happiness in life. However ignoring your feelings of pain
or sadness only results in you burying these feelings deep
within you.  These feelings are real. They will not stay
buried for long and at some point they will surface.
When I lost my third job in 18 months I realized that
something was not quite aligned in my life. I needed to
sort it because I wanted to have more control back into
my life. I didn’t know why these terrible things kept
happening to me. Why wasn’t the Universe helping me?
It’s a fine balance to manage and process these feelings
and not get drawn into the vortex of negativity. My advice
is that you spend time acknowledging your feelings but
then move quickly to finding more positive things to
focus on in your life.
I found that by dealing with my feelings of sadness, pain
and grief I became more self aware and more resilient. As
a result my thoughts and energies were more aligned and
thus my relationship with the Universe became stronger.