change our circumstances and the people around us, believing they are the cause of our emotional turmoil and unhappiness. Not accepting who and how they are, from within our conditioned beliefs and values, we justify and support our actions. This thinking only results in suppression or becoming fixated on them, thus trapping us in blame. We think we know how others and our life should be. When really all we are doing is a whole lot of thinking and action based on the cycle of our conditioned thought-based motivations and conclusions. So with positive intentions, commitment and purpose we turn outside for help. We practice religion, explore many mind, body and spirit methodologies, we study and go on courses, among other things, including the big step of obtaining a life coach for assistance. conditioning, we are working backwards, attempting to create a new way by using the very conditioned thinking that keeps us trapped in the same cycles, over and over again. We are working from our knowing mind, believing that we 'know how' to change things. Have we not done this our whole lives in some way or another? Have we not spent our whole lives believing we know how? Believing all we need to do is work harder at it, or let go, or learn more, or change our minds or have more or e