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4. You’re not ready for a long-term
relationship
This isn’t a read. It’s simply a fact that some
guys aren’t ready for a long-term relationship.
They’re too focused on their career. They’re
not over their ex. They’re not over some past
trauma. They’re too consumed with them-
selves to care and love for someone else. If
that’s the case, you shouldn’t be dating.
5. You’re not the monogamous-type
It could be as simple as you’re not the mo-
nogamous type. By repeatedly attempting
monogamy, it’s like you’re trying to shove a
square peg into a circular hole. Maybe it’s
time to find another relationship style that
works best for you (and your partners).
6. You’re unwilling to accept differ-
ent baseline needs
I was recently at a sexpo called Consider
This, by Curious Fox. One of the speakers
there, who was a licensed therapist, said she
hates the idea of compromise. The way she
put it, neither of you get what you want when
you compromise, and for some reason, that’s
considered a success! What she said is that
you need to accept the fact that you have
different baseline needs, and you shouldn’t try
to change that about the person you’re dating.
If your baseline needs are incredibly far off,
it’s probably a sign that you shouldn’t be dat-
ing (or your relationship is going to require a