Noble Use of Money
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profession and getting our daughters married. We should give
something to the daughters too. Nowadays even the girls get
part of the family inheritance. You give to your daughters anyway;
there is considerable expense in getting them married. You give
them gold and jewelry, don’t you? However in addition to this,
you should also give them something else. But whatever wealth
you have created on your own, you should spend for yourself,
for your next life.
Questioner: Should we provide a home and a business
for our children but make them responsible for the loan?
Dadashri: Whether you have half a million or one million,
give your son a house and help him start a business of his
interest. Then secure a loan for him and let him make the
payments. Give him half the amount he needs and let the rest
come as a loan from the bank for which he will be responsible.
He needs to have that much pressure so that he does not waste
the money elsewhere. When he cannot make his payments, tell
him that you will borrow money on his behalf, but it will need
to be paid back quickly. In due time, you should remind him
that you had promised to pay back your lender as soon as
possible. If your son responds by telling you not to keep
bothering him, that is a good sign, be assured that he will not
come to you for money again!
You should keep a safe-side for yourself, but at the same
time you should not appear bad to your son. Conduct yourself
in such a way that your son will say, “My father is a good man
and I am the one who is awkward for speaking to him the way
I did. My father is a very good man.” You should escape the
world in this manner.
The Ideal Will
Give your sons and daughters a certain amount. You must
keep at least half your wealth confidential. Disclose the other