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developing a pattern in the type of men that they are attracted to and keep choosing. This book not only tells women what to look out for in men, it encourages them to be their-self when they date and that self-confidence will begin to lead them on a journey where they pick the right man instead of allowing the wrong man to use them.
Multifarious: Seeing as this started out as a journal, are there a few personal accounts or experiences or is it based on the people you see and hear around you who you notice are hurting and unhappy?
Tamara: It was a combination of both. I dated and went through some things with the wrong men but instead of becoming bitter and using my pain to hurt others I wanted to help them. And that was the reason why I had such a strong desire to publish this book. When people are hurting they do not realize how deep their pain is and how it affects the people they date, and how it changes the things they will put up with in relationships. A lot of people transfer their feelings of low self-esteem, unhappiness and worth to the relationship without knowing it.
Multifarious: Are there any writers, mentors or supporters that have really helped you while writing or that you have taken hope or courage from?
Tamara: It has been my family for sure. My mentors Carol Swayze, Inez Ketron, Will MsDonald and more than I could even name right now.
Multifarious: How did you come up with the title?
Tamara: My sister came up with the title. We were discussing what the book should be called and she just came up with it. I thought it was catchy and that is what we went with. My sister is my title catcher.
Multifarious: What was the hardest or most challenging part about writing this book, or handing it to get published?
Tamara: The most challenging part was believing that it would ever get published. As a person that loves to write it was devastating for me that I have not been able to find a job in what I love to do. So the most challenging part about writing this book was trying to keep my dream alive and not give up on it. Within that 3 year period before I
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