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Multifarious: Let’s start with your background. Tell us a little bit about yourself.
Tamara: I grew up and still live in Chattanooga, Tennessee. I went to college and majored in English writing. I have an associate's in journalism, and a bachelor's in English Writing. I’ve worked odd jobs throughout my life and now I’m a secretary. I couldn’t find a job in my field, but instead of giving up I decided to write on the side and still pursue my passion.
Multifarious: Was there a pivotal moment in your life which led you to write this particular book? What was your inspiration?
Tamara: That book was my journal. it was never supposed to be published. I started writing that book because I was tired of seeing women being mis-treated by men. I had read a lot of relationship books that either gave women wrong advice or advice that encouraged them to change. Although some information in the books were helpful, a lot of information was very confusing and would only lead women to have a broken heart in the end. I wanted to write a book that was truthful and honest but at the same time gave women hope and empowerment to be happy within themselves first before they asked the next man to. After 3 years I decided to publish it and within the first week of sending it out, Tate Publishing accepted it - it was a sign to me that this book was meant to be published.
Multifarious: If a reader was to take something away from your book, what do you think the most important or prominent part would be?
Tamara: A lot of times women get hurt by the wrong men that manipulate and use them. Sometimes women either put up a wall that does not let any man in or they start to develop a ‘rescue me’ complex that asks men to save them from the pain that they have been feeling. When a woman is hurting she may keep choosing the wrong men and when she keeps getting hurt she may label all men as dogs when they are not. So I try to help women see the difference between the good man and the manipulative man so that they do not get the two confused… I encourage women to heal from their pain and not judge the next man for something another did to her. I feel that women need to be alone and heal before they get into their next relationship. If they keep getting into relationships without healing first, and continue to be hurt, they could end up developing a pattern in the type of men that they are attracted to and keep choosing. This book not only tells women what to look out for in men, it encourages them to be their-self when they date and that self-confidence will begin to lead them on a journey where they pick the right man instead of allowing the wrong man to use them.
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