I JUST WANTED ANSWERS
Reflecting on this second loss, Kimberly recalls, “No solutions were offered, no intervention or testing was done.” With the last couple of
words, her voice cracks. Then nothing. When she breaks the silence, there is a sharper edge in her voice as she repeats, “well that sucks,
but you can try again.” Kimberly explains that most doctors do not recommend testing for underlying issues until you have had three or
more miscarriages.
The result is frustration shared by women all over the country. Kimberly explains, “Why do we have to go through the pain and heartache
of loss upon loss before they begin searching for an underlying reason? It doesn’t make sense. We knew we wanted to have a baby, we
just did not know if we could continue to try only to face another loss.”
With two years and two miscarriages behind them, Bobby and Kimberly were settling in from a move when she realized she was
pregnant for the fourth time. Overcome with emotion, she found the closest OBGYN to their new home and went in, crying hysterically.
The doctor ran a series of tests and blood work. This time her results carried the weight of words like tumor, cancer and chemotherapy.
Concerned that Kimberly had a rare form of cancer known as Choriocarcinoma, her OBGYN and several specialists agreed on a plan.
After several weeks of testing and D&C (Dilation and Curettage) procedures, it was determined that she had in fact miscarried and did
not have a tumor.
THEN THERE WAS HOPE
Relieved and heartbroken, she was finally being treated. It only took a $1,000 blood panel to find answers and resolutions, but only
after the price and frustration of waiting through three miscarriages.
“I have a rare blood clotting disorder, triggered after the first
pregnancy, that involves a daily dose of baby aspirin and folic acid.
That’s it.” Hard to imagine all the suffering and loss that could have
been prevented by something so simple.
Finally, she was medically cleared in January 2012 to “try again”
and was pregnant by March. “Bobby kept telling me to be calm
and keep my faith. But I had it in my mind I had lost this baby just like
the others.”
On the contrary, in November of 2012, Kimberly and Bobby Head
birthed a healthy baby girl, Natalie Grace. Kimberly reflects on her
husband’s love and support throughout the years, “All through this
journey, Bobby was extremely supportive. He is a rock - part