HEARTACHE
BY: TRACI COKER
J
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TO BLESSINGS
Kimberly and
BUT YOU CAN TRY AGAIN
Bobby Head were once high school
“I’m sorry,” she says, as her voice cracks, “this is where I lose it.” A heart wrenching
sweethearts who reconnected later and
moment of silence follows, broken only by the soft sound of tears. You can almost feel the
married. Enjoying each day of wedded
inaudible emotional battle she is fighting. Now her voice is slightly higher and straining,
bliss, they became pregnant and had their
as she continues, “the most frustrating thing to reconcile in all of this is the reaction we
first son, Isaiah, in 2007. His was a happy,
received from those in the medical field.” Becoming more detached, she deadpans,
healthy and seamlessly easy pregnancy.
“(They said) ‘that sucks, but you can try again.’ That’s it. That’s what we did. Three months
When Isaiah was almost two years old,
later I was pregnant again.”
Bobby and Kimberly decided it was time
to expand their family. Kimberly became
pregnant immediately.
As an instructor for a small college in downtown Dallas, Kimberly remembers being
frustrated when seeing pregnant girls who did not want to be pregnant with little stability
or support eating junk food, smoking, and making poor decisions. She says with a shamed
Elated and excited, they shared their news
reticence, “I did not understand how someone who doesn’t want to have a baby could
with family and friends. Kimberly scheduled
be pregnant while my husband and I, who were stable and whole-heartedly wanted to
her first appointment to see her midwife
have another child, couldn’t. I was just in a bad place. I was heartbroken.”
shortly thereafter. She was approximately
six to seven weeks along when the day
came. She discovered some bleeding that
stressful job and environment, she became pregnant again. This time Bobby and Kimberly
morning and the midwife later determined
decided to wait through the first trimester before sharing the happy news. Sadly, at her
she had miscarried.
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Kimberly soon changed schools and moved into a Director’s position. Now in a less
twelve-week exam the doctor was unable to locate a heartbeat.