Importance of Relating to Others
It is necessary to stay connected with the world, to have realistic perspectives and life projects and good training in social skills to interact healthily with the world.
As for coping strategies and personal growth, we must identify what it means to be alone and see the cause that has led us to find ourselves in that harmful loneliness.
On many occasions, we ask ourselves inaccurate questions since we focus only on emotional discomfort, finding the solution, and not identifying the real problem. For example, if we have lost our partner, we can fall into the error of believing that I feel lonely because I do not have a partner, although the real reason is that not having a partner makes me feel lonely, and I cannot bear it. This can be for many reasons that we have learned, such as: "at your age it will be difficult for you to find someone," "losing your partner makes you feel like a failure and be unable to lead your life alone" or "what will become of you without ...".
Role of Emotions in Loneliness
On the other hand, our thoughts become powerful and have a lot of power, occupying a lot of space and time, feeding negative emotions that increase our feeling of loneliness much more. Accepting our emotions and not judging them is essential. Questioning our thoughts and giving them other interpretations can help us break the circle where we find ourselves immersed when we feel alone.
Understanding that we can feel alone, misunderstood and ignored at some point in our life and normalize is not so severe. You do not have to be constantly happy or happy, or always support others or be decisive and effective.
There are times when we can feel helpless, or we can also need others, and this is what makes us human. We have the right to feel sad and overcome adversity to regain momentum and keep moving forward. We have to control that this sensation does not last over time so that it does not interfere with our mood
and cause us to be more affected.
Learning that emotions have an intensity and duration in time and do not last forever is valuable and essential. Learning to live with our feelings in this way teaches us not to resist and resign ourselves and to confront and resolve the situation.
Loneliness is fought with activation and movement and going out into the world, not hiding from it: creating routines, doing physical exercise, looking for interests and hobbies will make us connect with people, relate to the world, and grow and enrich ourselves more in it.
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