Take Your Time
Let ’ s say that to really enjoy sex you ’ d need to be in a particular mood . You ’ d need to feel completely safe and understood by your wife – and this would need to begin long before you even thought about jumping into bed . Oh , and to become sexually aroused you ’ d need some warm up time that might begin with several minutes of gentle caressing interspersed with pillow talk . The lights would need to be low , you ’ d need to consider what you ’ re wearing , and you ’ d need some time to brush your teeth and prepare yourself physically .
Hard to imagine , right ? But I ’ m sure you ’ re getting the point . If you want your wife to be more forthcoming with her sexual desires , you ’ ve got to do your part in helping her love your love making sessions . A little empathy can go a long way in getting you to slow it down a bit and set the stage for passionate sex that makes her feel great .
Reduce Distractions
One of the biggest reasons that this myth of unequal libidos persists is because men rarely give consideration to what is distracting women from sex . After all , most of the time , it takes a lot to distract us from the effort ! That ’ s why we need to take special care in doing whatever we can to keep distractions for her to a minimum . You probably already know what they are , but if not , ask your wife to tell you .
If you have children , that ’ s inevitably going to top the list . So will any emotional or conversational loose ends between her and you or anyone else . She may be distracted by tomorrow ’ s busy schedule , an upcoming dinner party , a doctor ’ s appointment , an unpaid bill . You name it . So if you want her libido to be raring to go tonight , first find out what might be getting in its way and do what you can to remove it . But please don ’ t do the typical macho move of “ fixing ” her problem so you can have sex . That is sure to backfire .
Pay attention to what dampens her sexual desires by listening patiently . Bite your tongue if you ’ re about to spout off a quick solution . Make sure she feels understood . That ’ s all . You ’ ll be amazed at how much your “ doing nothing ” can increase her libido .
Touch Her Feelings Before You Touch Her Body
If you want to rev up your wife ’ s sexual motor , you ’ ll need a heart -‐ felt message to turn on her ignition . She ’ s hardwired to become sexually motivated when you romance her , when you whisper those proverbial “ sweet nothings ” in her ear . It doesn ’ t take much . You don ’ t need to compose a poem . You simply need to let her know how much she means to you . Anything endearing will do . You can say things like , “ You mean so much to me ,” or “ You ’ re the best part of my day .” Of course , you have to be genuine when you say these things . If you ’ re just “ making a move ,” forget it . She ’ ll read right through you . Every woman knows the difference between manipulative come -‐ ons and heart -‐ felt sweet nothings .
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