The
Ultimate
Guide
to
Crazy
Good
Sex
Men
don't
like
to
cuddle.
We
only
like
it
if
it
leads
to...
you
know...
lower
cuddling.
Ray
Barone
The
scene
opens
as
the
camera
zooms
in
on
the
Barone
house
at
night,
and
then
into
the
bedroom
where
Ray
is
sitting
next
to
Debra,
his
wife.
She's
lying
down
facing
the
camera,
with
her
back
to
Ray,
about
to
fall
asleep.
Ray,
the
sports-‐writer
in
the
long-‐running
sitcom
Everybody
Loves
Raymond,
reaches
over
and
gently
touches
her
exposed
shoulder.
Eyes
closed,
Debra
simply
says,
"No."
He
withdraws
his
hand,
and
then
gently
touches
her
again.
"No,"
comes
the
deadpan
response.
Again,
Ray
touches
her
shoulder,
and
still
without
moving
or
opening
her
eyes,
Debra
says,
"No."
Then,
with
his
brow
wrinkled
as
if
conducting
an
experiment,
Ray
reaches
his
hand
over
his
wife's
shoulder
without
touching
her.
"No,"
comes
the
response—again
with
her
eyes
closed.
Then,
in
response
to
three
quick
passes
through
the
air
over
her
shoulder,
Debra
says
"No,
No,
No,"
each
in
precise
timing
with
the
passes.
The
scene
ends
as
Ray
reaches
his
hand
far
above
her
and,
without
touching
her,
swoops
it
down
over
her
in
what
looks
like
an
airplane
pass.
In
a
pitch
that
matches
the
height
of
the
hand
she
cannot
see,
Debra
responds,
"NoooooOOOO." i
Ever
felt
like
Ray
Barone
in
this
scene?
Most
married
men
readily
confess
to
having
their
sexual
advances
toward
their
wife
halted
on
more
than
one
occasion.
In
fact,
most
married
men
believe
that
women
do
not
want
to
have
sex
as
much
as
we
do.
Over
time
the
old
reliable
“Not
tonight,
I
have
a
headache”
has
morphed
into
“I’m
too
tired
tonight,”
but
the
message
to
us
is
the
same.
They
don’t
want
to
have
sex
when
we
do.
Maybe
your
wife
has
even
accused
you
of
being
“insatiable.”
And
you’re
amazed
at
how
long
she
can
go
without
ever
even
initiating
sex
with
you.
So,
you
are
wondering,
how
can
I
be
saying
this
is
a
myth?
Don’t
men,
generally
speaking,
want
more
sex
than
women
do?
Though
it
may
seem
that
way
for
a
variety
of
reasons,
we
are
making
a
mistake
to
assume
that
just
because
it
so
often
feels
that
way
that
it
is
true.
The
fact
is
our
sex
drives,
for
both
men
and
women,
fall
along
a
continuum
that
looks
like
a
bell
curve,
and
most
wives
are
right
in
the
middle,
wanting
to
have
sex
with
their
husbands
just
as
much
as
their
husbands
want
to
have
sex
with
them.
Of
course,
some
women
actually
have
a
stronger
libido
than
their
husband,
but
these
marriages
are
in
the
minority.
So
why
all
the
hullabaloo
about
libido
mismatch
between
men
and
women?
And,
more
importantly,
how
can
correcting
this
myth
lead
to
better
–
and
more
frequent
–
sex
in
your
own
marriage?
I’ll
begin
with
a
brief
lesson
on
the
female
libido.
Make
no
mistake,
it
is
more
complicated
than
ours.
But
if
we
accurately
understand
it,
we’ll
not
only
see
that
it’s
unfair
to
unequivocally
say
that
women
don’t
want
sex
as
much
as
we
do,
but
we’ll
also