What I Wish to Share
I wish to share with people the ability to understand their horses on a deeper level through the use of reading their horses behavior/psychology, communicating with feel, energy and intention of mind. To allow the horse and human to build upon a solid foundation to find the ultimate relationship they can have together, understand and overcome any problems they may encounter along their journey. I want to help the human become the icon of comfort, safety and enjoyment as a partner to the horse and the horse be seen as an equal counterpart, not a subordinate follower to the human. I want to be able to bring across the message that you can learn with your horse instead of just teaching him things, being demanding and expectant of him, and being forceful or ungrateful towards him. If we take the time to understand and apply our asks in a positive manner in a way the horse already understands, and take his feelings and wants into consideration we will reach our long term goals a lot sooner with a willing partner.
take the time to understand and apply our asks in a positive manner in a way the horse already understands, and take his feelings and wants into consideration we will reach our long term goals a lot sooner with a willing partner.
So how do we have him wish to seek us in a manner of politeness, trust and understanding he feels drawn to? First of all rid ourselves of an agenda. Just go spend time with him, make no plans to ride or train, just see what he would like to do. As oppose to other methods of pressure, dominance, demand or force? Its rather simple. We give him free choice, the choice in which he rightly deserves as any living being on this earth does. We must relinquish any feel of dominance and control over a situation as we humans like to have in order to authentically offer this freedom of choice and allowance to our horses. If we give him free choice, not options, choice and allowance to do as he will, and I do not me in unsafe terms, I mean free choice in your time together and what you do with it, he will begin to offer you the same choice in return.
By allowing him the choice of answering your requests and by offering something pleasurable in return, and if he chooses to join you in your idea than he has given you one the of the most special things a horse can give, and that is his free choice to participate. For a horse to offer back free choice, when you think about how much he relies on his own choices, decisions and instincts for survival, that is a special thing to be offered. But when he offers you such choice, whether it be his choice to choose you over another horse or he chose to participate in your idea or activity over his own, he is giving you something of such importance, simply because you gave him that same form of allowance to begin with.
Allowance, it’s a powerful thing. Easily misused, and easily misunderstood, but most amazing if allowance is simply aloud to be. So allow him to be with you, offer something wonderful for that choice, but most of all allow him that choice. Follow him and he will follow you, provide him with what he needs and he will provide you with the same. When you become an equal partner or companion, you do things equally, but take the lead when the other is unsure, you offer guidance and reassurance in that situation. So we cannot force him to choose us and stay, we can only allow him to by giving him all that he needs, creating a positive relationship, and becoming a passive leader.
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