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Grandma’s rules for dating in a modern world
When I was a little girl growing up, I would hear my elders talk about the proper etiquette for a young lady or what I like to call the “do’s” and “don’ts” of dating. Men had rules to follow too and were certainly not excluded but they usually followed suit with what was expected for women. It all seemed so simple back in those days as compared to modern times when you have to guess who will pay for the date or if you will get a “call back” after the date has ended. Maybe it’s time to revisit those days. Well at least revisit the rules that were set in place to ensure a successful courtship and see if we can update them to suit our modern day needs.
First, I’ll start with the ladies. As young ladies, we need to value our worth. You see, the more confident you feel about yourself on the inside, the more it will show on the outside. You have to believe you are worthy of a guy who treats you like a queen. If a guy is not treating you like the queen you are, he is not worthy to be with you. There’s plenty of fish in the sea. You have to know how much you bring to a potential relationship and that any man deserving of you should know this and respond to you accordingly.
Now, with that being said, we also have to look the part. I see many beautiful young women going out of their houses looking like they just woke up that morning. That isn’t exactly appealing to a potential suitor. You want to look your best no matter where you go. Wear your favorite colors like the ones that drive men wild. Add a high heel pump to go with that dress you saw in your favorite clothing store. Add a little flair to your favorite hair do and don’t forget to include your favorite lip gloss to finish your look. Now, you’re ready for that date with that special someone.
Fellas, don’t think I forgot about you. It is critical for you to maintain a certain level of confidence. As a matter of fact, I recommend not leaving home without it. Women look forward to meeting men who are confident and can take charge on a date. It’s such a turnoff for a man to be indecisive and “wishy-washy” on a date. And don’t think you can just show up for a date in a white T-shirt and jeans. Show off your favorite styles. If you’re a rough and rugged type of guy, by all means, do add a little ruggedness to your look for the date but still keeping it date appropriate. If you’re more of a sensitive type of guy, yet still very much masculine, maybe a nice shirt and Khaki pants are the look for you. Once you have accomplished your look, you are well on your way.
Now, while dating has certainly changed since I was a little girl, some things never change. I still believe women enjoy it when a man approaches them rather than vice versa. We still enjoy receiving phone calls from men as opposed to texts as well as men asking us out on dates. I’ve listed a few of my favorite do’s and don’ts below that can still be applied to our modern day dating world.