others . When we suffer unrequited or unexpressed love , it just eats us alive , right ? When we are bothered about something or someone we care about , the feeling is heavy and unpleasant , maybe even unbearably so . When we care enough to love but the lines of communication are down , a relationship can quickly deteriorate and fall apart .
Bad communication starves love - and negative emotions compromise the workings of the body in measurable ways . Given enough time , the feelings we don ’ t communicate will rot us away from the inside .
Take fear . When things become tough , we mentally flinch , as we do when our skin touches something hot or cold and we jerk away before the pain hits us . It ’ s entirely natural to fear to communicate , because we don ’ t want to hurt and lose love . Subconsciously , our brain works to protect us , even at the expense of taking those risks with the heart that are so necessary to find true love . The mind plays tricks . We fail to leap - and stagnate , by playing it too safe .
For most people , myself included , it ’ s a daily battle to tune out fear , to be brave enough to ignore the voices of insecurity and doubt and to find that strong , calm , quiet voice that guides us true .
Pain is another enemy of good communication , and I ’ ve seen it up close as it rips into my patients . Pain is cruel . Pain can makes us believe the worst of ourselves when we desperately need to be strong . Worse , it corrupts . Pain metastasizes love into something corrosive and harmful - and it can even replace it , so we become emotionally dependent on feeling bad .
In my professional experience as a chronic pain expert , I ’ ve learned the grave consequence of miscommunicating pain . We shut ourselves down . We shun communication . Our misguided , fickle mind says communicating is the last thing we need , instead of speaking the truth , that it ’ s the first thing . We clam up and build walls .
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As a former chronic pain sufferer , I ’ ve seen those walls from both sides . The antidote is simple . ( In fact , most aspects of living well are simple in theory . We ’ re a species of obsessive over-complicators .) The “ secret ” is : you talk .
When we talk , we express emotion - and feel better , relieved , more loved , unburdened , healthier . The more we channel our true feelings into what we say to others ( and to ourselves ), the better our mind and bodies will behave and function . It ’ s that simple .
Life is about how much we care . Caring is the communication of feelings , about ourselves and in consequence , about the world around us . Caring draws people towards us , since we ’ re attracted to those who can express the emotions that create the most joy and fulfilment inside ourselves . Caring unlocks everything - including the clarity you need to communicate better than at any time in your life .
Both as a doctor and as the energetic , confused girl I always was - I urge you to show you care , until the world makes sense again .
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