Life Without Conflict 71
Questioner: No.
Dadashri: Differences of opinions lead to fights and worries. If that happens because of differences in opinions then imagine what would happen if there are differences amongst the minds? When that happens, divorces take place and when there is a difference with the body, death will occur.
Fight, But In the Park
If you want to fight, go outside and do it. Make that your rule. The day the two of you want to fight, go to a park and fight as much as you want, then come home, but do not fight at home. The day you feel like fighting with your wife, tell her,“ Let us go to a park and have a nice picnic and then we can fight to our heart’ s content.” Fight in a way that others will get involved. There should be no fighting at home. God does not reside in a home where there is discord. What has God said? He has said there should be no fighting in the home of a devotee. A devotee is anyone whose worship is indirect( paroksha bhakti) through the medium of a picture, an image, an idol etc. And a devotee whose worship is direct,( pratyaksha), one who has the awareness and the realization of the Soul within is called a‘ Gnani’, and there can be no conflicts in the home of a Gnani, only eternal bliss( samadhi) prevails there.
So if someday you have a desire to fight, tell your husband,“ Let’ s go to the park.” Send the children to someone else. Then tell your husband to smile when you slap him in public. Let the public witness your drama. People are big on impressions. When they see you both, they will think to themselves,“ Here is a man who is very honorable, but today he has no reputation left.” Does anyone have any honor left today? People create a reputation for themselves by hiding the truth.