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Life Without Conflict
Husband – Wife
This world is very vast but people do not perceive it that
way. For some, their home is the entire world to them. There
is nothing wrong in thinking that way, but even in his home, he
fights with his wife. You fool she is not your enemy.
When husband and wife fight with the neighbors, they are
united. If you see them, you would think their unity is
praiseworthy and admirable, but inside the house, if the wife
does not put enough sugar in his tea, he starts lecturing her,
“Every day, I tell you to put more sugar in the tea but your mind
is never in the right place.” You fool! Your own mind is not in
the right place. What kind of a man are you anyway? Should
you be quarrelling with the person with whom you have ongoing
interactions everyday?
Do you have differences of opinions with anyone?
Questioner : Yes, a lot of times.
Dadashri : Do you have differences of opinions with
your wife?
Questioner : Yes, many times.
Dadashri : Even with your wife? If you cannot be united
with her, then with whom can you be? Unity means never
having differences of opinions. Your wife is the one person with
whom you must vow never to have any differences. That is how
united you should be. Do you have such a unity?
Questioner : I have never thought about it this way
before. This is the first time I am thinking this way.
Dadashri : Yes, you will have to think, will you not? Do
you know how much thinking Lord (Mahavira) did before his
final liberation? Do you like having differences?