64 Life Without Conflict
If your feet are hurting and your wife is massaging them, and someone comes along and happens to witness this, he will say,“ Wow! You really are the boss at home,” you should reply,“ No, she is the one with control,” because if you say you are in control, she will stop massaging!
Questioner: Is that not flattering her?
Dadashri: No this is the right way; all other ways are crooked and wrong. In the current time cycle, this is a different way to be happy. What I am telling you is applicable only to the current time cycle. Why should you ruin your breakfast and your meals for the entire day?
Do Not Provoke a Reaction
Questioner: By the afternoon, we forget our morning conflicts and the same thing starts over again in the evening.
Dadashri: Yes, I know this. I have the understanding and the knowledge of the power that causes conflicts to arise. I know the power that makes us say the wrong things and the adjustments we take after that. It is possible to understand everything through Gnan, and having said that, we must adjust to this world. Everything in this world eventually comes to an end. However, if certain events seem to linger, you do not help matters by reacting, on the contrary, you make matters worse. When that happens, not only are you hurting others, but you are also hurting yourself. Who has the power to improve things? Only the one who have improved himself can improve others. How can you improve others if you, yourself have not?
Questioner: But we can improve others if we improve ourselves, right?
Dadashri: Yes, you can. Questioner: How can I tell whether I have improved?