132 Life Without Conflict
the days gone by , that whenever the husband was away , the wife ’ s chit was completely absorbed in her husband and no one else would come to mind . Today however , if the husband has been away for two years , she will find a new husband ! How can you call this love ? This is nothing but excrement ! That which flows out is called excrement . In true love , there is giving , not taking .
Love is that which keeps you engrossed and stays on your mind all day long . There are two conclusions in marriage : sometimes it thrives and sometimes it results in destruction . The love that overflows can also ebb . That which overflows is really attraction , so keep your distance from where it overflows . The burning flame of true love is an internal state . Even when the external packing spoils , or decays , the love remains the same . But if the wife burns her hand and asks her husband to help her change the dressing , he will say he cannot bear to look at her hand . The fool ! This is the same hand that you were caressing , and now you are repulsed by it ? How can you put up with this ? Where there is love , there is no repulsion and where there is repulsion , there is no love . Even the worldly love needs to be without great fluctuation . It should be within normality . The Gnani ’ s love never increases or decreases ; it is unique , and is considered to be the love of the Absolute Soul .
Normality Worthy of Learning
Questioner : What is the definition of ‘ normality ’ in this worldly life ?
Dadashri : If everyone tells you that you wake up late , should you not understand that you are not within normality ? If you wake up in the middle of the night and roam around the house , will people not ask you why you wake up so early ? That too is not within normality . Normality is that which is acceptable to everyone around . You need normality even in your eating