up or reach their full redemptive potential . I turned Rohr ’ s five rules into five shifts . Instead of saying , “ Life is hard ,” I said , “ It ’ s a shift from ease to difficulty .”
Instead of saying , “ You ’ re not important ,” I said , “ Boys care about themselves , but men care about others .”
Instead of saying , “ Your life is not about you ,” I said , “ You ’ re part of the story , but you ’ re not the whole story .”
Instead of saying , “ You ’ re not in control ,” I said ,
“ It ’ s a shift from control to surrender .”
Instead of saying , “ You ’ re going to die ,” I said , “ It ’ s a shift from the temporary to the eternal .”
I began a period of time when I consciously wanted to show my son , Nate , that the life of a boy is a life of ease , a life of self in which we try to control everything , and a life spent living in the moment .
Our core framework for walking through each of these shifts looked like this : during our morning meetings , I did a Bible teaching where I tried to
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