Blaming Vs. Taking Responsibility Alex Seeley
I asked a close friend of mine, a licensed counselor, what patterns she’ s noticed over the years in those she had counseled. I asked what she thought the difference was between those who have been successful in overcoming their issues and those who became stuck and did not change. She said the reason so many never truly heal is because they either refuse to admit that they are unwell or deny that the problem exists with them. They blame others and are unwilling to take responsibility for their actions in the process. They want the counselor to do the work for them, hoping that just talking about it will cause the issues in their life to shift.
One of the biggest obstacles to healing is
that people struggle to acknowledge they are sick. They often deflect and say things like,“ Other people say that I am like this or that.” But when asked directly if there is any truth in those statements, they respond,“ Oh no, I am not like that at all,” ignoring the fact that sometimes the problem lies within them but they don’ t want to confront it in counseling.
No one likes the thought of being sick. But what do we do when we are physically ill? We reach for remedies that will help us feel back to normal as quickly as possible. In a similar way, God does not desire that any of us stay spiritually sick. He reveals so He can heal. Sometimes the shame is so deep that the thought of bringing it to light feels worse
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