the ground . No problem , I thought . But as I got into the car , I suddenly felt like a giant .
I had to tuck my knees up to my chest . There was nowhere to put my arms . I felt like I was trapped in a seat on a budget airline with no hope of getting a share of the armrest . It was uncomfortable .
As we pulled out of my driveway , my friend started to go through all of the quirks of the car , which sounded a lot like complications .
“ You have to watch dips in the road , so it doesn ’ t bottom out . You can ’ t drive it in the rain .” And on and on . There were an awful lot of quirks about this car that didn ’ t actually sound that great .
As we were driving , I started thinking about love . ( I realize probably only a therapist would ride in a Ferrari and think about love , but just go with it .) Sometimes we envision love to be this perfect thing , but when we get up close , it ’ s complicated and a lot different from what we need .
It doesn ’ t really suit us .
It ’ s overly complicated and requires us to behave differently than we normally would .
It ’ s cramped and doesn ’ t allow us to grow .
( I should probably note that I love the look of Ferraris , and I ’ m in no way putting Ferraris or Ferrari owners down ; it ’ s just a good illustration .)
My friend ended up selling the Ferrari not long after he drove me around that sunny afternoon . I asked him why and he said that the car was just way too complicated for what he needed , and he realized those quirks weren ’ t worth it for him .
Here ’ s the thing : when you ’ re in a healthy relationship , it will fit what you need and give
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